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|Wed, 10-10-2012 - 9:59pm|
My sister and I have never had the closest friendship, she is older and has had a tough time in the last few months so I have been trying to be supportive and caring etc. Besides my own family and working, I have a very busy life and many wonderful friends and charity type work that Im involved in. I always invited my sister to family things and kept her part of my inner circle. I feel that she does not reciprocate at all to me unless I ask to be invited to something she is doing. She doesn't initiate getting together, nor will she include me and my family in her arrangements.
My mother keeps asking me if I called her or having I spoken to her, which makes it harder as unless I invite my sister to eat with us, there is no other contact with her. Today is her birthday and I rang early this morning to see what she what she is doing. I know she is having a dinner with her friends tonight and was waiting for an invitation to come along, it didn't happen. I also do not think I needed to ask to be invited to her dinner with her friends when she didn't offer in the first place. Clearly she doesn't want me to come along.
My family treat me pretty badly, I invite them to my house, they eat and drink and have a good time, and rarely do I hear from them after that. I continuously have to chase them up if I want any contact at all. My friends don't treat me this way. When I invite them and their families for dinner, they always thank me after and stay in touch and reciprocate the invitations. Soon it will be my sons birthday and my mother wants me to arrange a get together with my older brother as his birthday is the same week as my sons. I feel that I should not have to do this, its another thing to organize with people who don't really care about me or my kids. I asked my mother to organize this for her son and grandson and she said no, its up to me to do it.
I feel that my family - immediately siblings - just don't care enough about me .. I really feel that unless Im putting myself out in some way for them, I wouldn't hear from them at all.. I see what they are doing on FB, that's about it. What would the Village community do in this instance? Any advise or ideas would be greatly appreciated.