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|Thu, 10-11-2012 - 12:55pm|
I am in desperate need of some advice! I have a 17 dd that will be going off to college next and still only be 17. I recently found out that while she was visiting a friend at a nearby college, she attended a college party. I also know that she was drinking and "made out" with several boys that same night. Too much alcohol = no inhibitions. I worry about her safety if that were to happen again.
A litlte background - she has never had a boyfriend, thinks that all the guys in our town are not her type. Her only offical date at the age of 16 was going to prom. She hangs with different groups of kids, and through our conversations tells us that she is the responsible one if there is any underage drinking going on. She is very responsible at home, gets good grades, is never defiant - but has the usual ups and downs associated with just being a teenager. She is a great girl and we have a great releationship. She does have a curfew - and always comes home on time.
But now I am concerned. Since the party she has been "overly" excited about going off to college - she can't wait. I have a gut feeling that she is starting to let her morals fly out the window.
We have always been honest with her and explained the dangers of drinking, drugs, sex - the whole nine yards. But I feel that once she is in college - all of it went in one ear and out the other. Is she just waiting to be rebellious?
So my question is - how (in a short amount of time) can we instill in her that her morals are what matters for life - and doing the right thing - shouldn't stop once you're out of sight.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!