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|Thu, 10-11-2012 - 9:21pm|
I am now officially a free woman! It's such a relief just to have it over, I can't even tell you guys how much of a weight is off of my shoulders. Of course, yesterday my car broke down, pretty sure it's the clutch or gears messed up, not sure which, but I'm sure it's expensive as heck, so my car is at my friend's house waiting for me to get it towed. I tried today, but after court, I was so tired I just went to bed. Mind you, I am a night shift worker, so I only had a short nap last night. One of my friends went with me for moral support; I didn't get a lawyer of my own since I got everything I wanted out of the divorce, which is my stuff, like my car and motorcycle, the house, and my 401(k). He got his stuff. But, the man actually had it put into the divorce agreement that he gets the Kitchenaid mixer and his Pampered Chef pizza stone! Whatever, I'll just go buy another one, not worth fighting over, but I did have the urge to throw it at his head there for a minute; too bad the mixer is so heavy! I have primary custody, fair child support, and medical support, too, so all in all, pretty darn good.
The funny thing is now that we are divorced, he's being really nice. We had breakfast after court to talk about the kids and he invited me to go out to dinner and see a movie with him and our son, but I declined. I've seen enough of him for one day! I don't want to be mean, but I am exhausted from all the stress of the divorce, my car breaking, and getting the flu shot the other day, which has made me feel lousy as usual. I am a little sad; I pretty much grew up with him, after all, but I could never live with him again, and I am not even slightly attracted to him anymore. I get a little freaked out every so often, thinking, OMG, I'm all alone and turning 40 in a couple of months! However, I know I don't actually NEED a man since I have my own life, my own career, a group of good friend, loving family, and can and have been taking care of myself and the kids forever. I do miss having someone to share my life with, but I figure I'll find someone when the time is right. I'm not actively "looking" right now, but people are already trying to set me up with their single friends. One friend suggested a nice guy she knows, but he has custody of his 4, yes 4, kids, and they are all younger than my baby. *shudder* I have 4 cats, 2 dogs, and a pigeon, so I'm not sure which is worse! Any man who wants to date me is just going to have to roll with it, cause I come with a furry army and 2 over protective sons, not to mention a whole group of biker friends, lol.