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|Fri, 10-12-2012 - 9:20am|
I had an "interesting" phone conversation yesterday. DD #1 has an ex boyfriend who won't leave her alone. Now his parents are just as weird or weirder then he is. According to his mother her son is so smart that he didn't need to study for school, (she told me this while they went out a couple of years ago) however, he's never been on the Honor Roll for school, so he's definately been below 80%. Anyway, this "boy" (18 yo by now) had been texting DD #1 dozens of times while they were in High School. She's told him to stop it, not answering it and deleting his number and the texts. Then late Summer she got a new phone with a new number so the texts stopped. She's unfriended him on FB Months ago, but he keeps requesting to be her friend (he keeps changing something in his name to set up new profiles) and putting little messages in there saying to contact him - she doesn't reply to him and reports him for harassment. Any time she sees him (they have the same group of friends) she ignores him, won't talk to him or even acknowledge that he's there.
So yesterday morning he sent a friendship request to my 13 yo DD #2 asking in the little message to tell her sister to text him! Well, to me that was crossing the line. Before that it was between the two, but for an 18 yo to contact a 13 yo was too much. So I phoned his home and spoke to his Mother. I remained very calm during the conversation and asked her to please tell him to stop contacting DD #1 and #2 and for that matter not to contact anyone in my family. She couldn't understand what was going on, so I explained that he's been texting DD#1 and she insisted that DD had been talking to him and texting him, well, DD tells me that she hasn't. I told his Mother that regardless of what goes on between the two, I don't want him contacting my 13 yo. She tells me that he's working ALL THE TIME and doesn't have time to go on the computer (yeah, right, had to bite my tongue there). She asked why DD #1 "apparently doesn't want to talk to him" I told her that he's started rumours about them making out while she was going out with another guy. She tells me that "my son doesn't start rumours. If that's what he says then it's true." I tell her that he's told DD #1 that he can say whatever he wants whether it's true or not ... So make a long story short: she ended the conversation by telling me to stay away from her family, not even go past her house or else she'll call the police and have me charged with harassment. She'll be telling her son not to contact anyone in my family (told her that's all I'm asking ...) and THEN she says that maybe DD #1 should keep her legs crossed and that DD #2 obviously is just as bad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Then she hung up on me.
During the whole conversation I remained calm and actually smiled at the excuses she's making for her son who can do absolutely no wrong (while they went out he threatened her male friends with beatings if they as much as look at her let alone talk to her and he's the one who broke up with her when they went out a second time) and that he works so hard that he doesn't even have time to think about DD #1 ... He had applied to Military College and obvioulsy didn't get in, cause he's working so hard now instead of being at school. He was supposed to help out at a building project through the school and showed up on the first day only, because "it's too boring". Then he went to an adult school (much better school according to his Mother) where he finished High School. I spoke with DD #1's best friends mother and she said that he wasn't invited to the Graduation Party held at her house, but showed up with a mutual friend instead.
So now all I can hope is that his Mother is mad enough to make him stop contacting us, but honestly I don't think that'll happen. He'll just wait awhile and then start again