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|Fri, 10-12-2012 - 9:28am|
Hi Everyone!! I just have a WWYD question.
My oldest son M was adopted by DH and myself a little over a year ago from fostercare. Prior to the adoption he had been living with us for 2 years and came to our home directly from his bio's home. He is a very kind child who hold things in. He wants to be friends with everyone. He is 8 and currently in the third grade. It is not a secret that he is adopted and most of his classmates know that he is adopted as he had a different last name his first two years in school and had his name changes before entering second grade. M is very proud to be adopted. The school has a new (young) principal this year whom I would guess does not know M's background. We have been having issues on the bus with a few kids that are just a little bit older than M verbally picking on him. We have been working at home as well as with the school to try to get the issue resolved. Last night things escalated and one of the boys ripped on his coat so hard that it broke the zipper. I e-mailed the principal and the teacher my concern about the bullying escalating (they have taken all of my concerns seriously in the past) and am not sure what I should do.
I know that one of the boys is in a similar situation as M and is currently residing in a kinship placement but has had a rough start to life as his mother has been very neglectful. He has two younger sibling that are placed in a formal foster placement that he does not have contact with and he has not had any contact with his mother in over a year. I'm sure that this is going to be looked at as a reason for his acting out. M has also come from an abusive and neglectful beginning but instead of acting out he has gone the opposite direction and is eager to please others and internalizes everything.
I will protect my son but I'm not sure if I should go as far as to bring up his adoption and past history with the principal. I don't want to use his adoption as a way of explaining his behavior but it also is a part of who is he is and why he is such an easy target. I'm not sure where this information falls on the need to know scale.