Hiring a Stripper - Questions and Advice Needed

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Hiring a Stripper - Questions and Advice Needed
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Fri, 10-12-2012 - 12:26pm

My boyfriend and I have discussed, at length, his fantasy of a threesome.  I have to admit that I find the idea kind of hot.  Neither of us is 100% certain that we would actually go through with it, so we have discussed hiring a stripper to come to our house and do a private show.  Then, we can gauge how we feel about having a third person turning the other one on. 

Where do you find a stripper?  Secondly, what are the limits that strippers place during the show?  For example, is any touching allowed?  Third, if we decide we want to see if the stripper will engage in some touching, how much do you tip to get the stripper to play around?  Any suggestions and advice would be appreciated.

 

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Registered: 02-15-2007
Fri, 10-12-2012 - 12:43pm

         Hi Foxy, are you planning to hire a female or male stripper or should I have just assumed a female stripper?

         Tom,

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Sat, 10-13-2012 - 4:09pm
Why don't you go to a strip club and buy him some lap dances as a starter.
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Tue, 10-23-2012 - 4:17pm

The nearest strip club is over 2 hours away from where we live.  Also,despite a threesome being a major fantasy of his, he is very modest and has stated that he would be uncomfortable in a strip club environment. That is why I was thinking about hiring a stripper to come to us.  Any advice on hiring a stripper? 

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Registered: 10-24-2012
Wed, 10-24-2012 - 11:50am
Best thing is to hire an escort (rather than stripper) as you are then allowed as little peas much as you both want to experience
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Wed, 10-24-2012 - 7:38pm

Where would we find an escort?  As anyone ever hired an escort, and if so, how is it arranged?  We are both professionals in our community so discretion is an extremely high priority for us. 

I have never even kissed another woman, much less touched one, so that is another reason why we were thinking about having a stripper do a private show who might allow body shots, etc., so we could gauge how comfortable we really are with the whole idea before we progress to a full-on threesome with an escort.  I am very heterosexual, but the idea of having another woman let me kiss her breasts in front of my boyfriend really turns me on.

 

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Wed, 10-24-2012 - 7:38pm

Where would we find an escort?  As anyone ever hired an escort, and if so, how is it arranged?  We are both professionals in our community so discretion is an extremely high priority for us. 

I have never even kissed another woman, much less touched one, so that is another reason why we were thinking about having a stripper do a private show who might allow body shots, etc., so we could gauge how comfortable we really are with the whole idea before we progress to a full-on threesome with an escort.  I am very heterosexual, but the idea of having another woman let me kiss her breasts in front of my boyfriend really turns me on.

 

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Sun, 11-25-2012 - 7:19pm

I would start with Eros.com and search for an escort.  Take your time.  Find someone who is willing to talk to you on the phone about what you want.  As you would expect there are some women who aren't very professional, but there are many who are awesome.  Take your time and find someone you will be comfortable with.  You can also check them out on The Erotic Review.com.  Check the reviews.  If they don't have any, move on.   Many of these women have seen it all and will be quite willing to help you with your fantasy and take it as far as you want or don't want to.

 

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Sun, 01-27-2013 - 4:04am

I feel, if you are going to hire a stripper in order to "test the water," about having a threesome then I feel the two of you need to be realistic. It may give you sense what it will be like seeing him with another woman and what it might be like having a third person join the two of you. Since you are paying someone and it is done at a club, it will not be a true representation of the experience. Instead I would recommend trying soft-swinging. Soft-swinging may give you a closer feel for what a threeosme might be like.

In answer to your question about strippers. I am not sure if you are talking about hiring a stripper who does stag parties for example or if you mean lap dancing. A stripper is someone who takes their clothes off and usually have very specific rules about touch. Typically with a stripper there is only wathcing, no interaction. Strippers are found a strip clubs and depending on the laws in your area, you might be able to hire one from a service.

A lap dancer is different. They tend to be found at lap dancing clubs and they will simulate having sex. A rule tends to be they can touch you but you cannot touch them. I feel, if you are looking to see what a threeosme might be like then attending a lap dancing club instead of hiring a stripper might be a better choice?

Finally my advice if you are unsure about having a threeosme then doing some research along with talking some more with your boyfriend about having a threesome instead of hiring a stripper, attending a lap dancing club or trying soft-swinging.  By taking more, I feel, you may discover there is an underlying issue that needs to be addressed or something that is blocking you from having it. Therefore take is slow, research the idea, and talk more about it.

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Registered: 01-20-2013

Hiring an escort is a very bad idea especially if prostitution is illegal in your area. Escorts are illegal in areas where prostitution are illegal since they are prostitutes that operate under a different name. Furthermore you are just as likely to get AIDS, STDs / STIs, physically assaulted, robbed, or worse from an escort  as your would from a prostitute. Therefore, I would strongly recommend against hiring an escort.

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Registered: 01-20-2013
Sun, 01-27-2013 - 4:09am
If discretion is a must then the last thing you need is to have your face on the 10PM news for being arrested as a part of a prostitution sting.

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