Friendship versus EA

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Registered: 10-06-2012
Friendship versus EA
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Sat, 10-13-2012 - 6:54pm

Is the only difference between the two whether your spouse knows?  If you take all of the sexual talk and pics out of your ea ( friendship"), does that make is a friendship versus an EA?  What makes somthing and EA versus a friendship? 

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 10-13-2012 - 9:14pm

My opinion would be that an EA means that you are putting the primary focus of your feelings & interests on the "friend" instead of on your spouse which is where it's supposed to be.  Like you're constantly thinking about the friend, when can you talk, you're texting all day, you can't wait to talk or be together, you share all your feelings with that person instead of your spouse.  If the person was just a regular friend, the relationship wouldn't be as intense, it wouldn't matter if you went days w/o speaking, your heart wouldn't race & you wouldn't get all excited about talking to them. 

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Registered: 09-21-2007
Sat, 10-13-2012 - 10:08pm
If you have to hide everything you are doing and all that musiclover said, it's and ea. f

 

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Registered: 10-06-2012
Sat, 10-13-2012 - 10:13pm

well we did talk everyday, we both hid it from out spouses and there were sexual conversations and pics....however the racing heart is not there, I do smile when I get a text from him though.  I am beginning to think this was all onesided on my part and just i dont knwo what on his part.

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Registered: 09-21-2007
Sun, 10-14-2012 - 10:23pm
One sided on your part how?

 

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Registered: 10-06-2012
Mon, 10-15-2012 - 7:08am
I meant maybe to mr its an EA and to him we are just friends.