visible self pleasure

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Registered: 11-03-2001
visible self pleasure
Sun, 10-14-2012 - 4:19pm

I have this fantasy about pleasuring myself in front of other women.  No touching, just her watching the entire session and being close enough to touch but only for the best view. 

These women are not strangers however, they are friends, colleagues, all adult females that I know. 

I have talked to my girlfriend about this and so far it's still in fantasy land. At some point, I'd would like for her to ask one of her friends to satiate this for me.

Any comments about where this type of fetish/fantasy I have comes from?  Is this a voyeur or exhibitionist tendency?


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Registered: 08-02-2004
Sun, 01-13-2013 - 4:50pm

It would be nice to be able to talk to a female friend who maybe you know isn't interested in doing much sexually with you but just to say "Hey, would you might watching me take care of myself?"  It might add a more interesting element than just doing it by yourself.  

I've actually done it with my first wife when she was just too tired to have sex.  It was ok but certainly not the best way to go.  

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Registered: 11-22-2012
Thu, 11-22-2012 - 1:51pm

 exhibitxxx tendency, my girlfriend has same tendency, it's hot.

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Registered: 01-04-2007
Mon, 10-15-2012 - 11:31am

In the meantime, have you thought about video taping yourself and watching it later?

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Registered: 01-03-2007
Mon, 10-15-2012 - 10:27am

Do they touch themselves too, or is it just you "performing?" I would tend to agree it is an exhibitionist fantasy that is made comfortable to you by having the fantasy by someone you know rather than a stranger.

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Registered: 05-22-2003
Mon, 10-15-2012 - 8:09am
There are ALL types of fetishes out there. To me, this is a pretty straightforward exhibitionist desire.