Need advice on 15yr old DS
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| Sun, 01-12-2014 - 9:57am |
When DS was 14, I caught him smoking pot in our home. I automatically moved him into our guest room (next to our bedroom) so we could keep a better eye on him. He also lost EVERYTHING and essentially became a guest in his own home for 3 months. Since moving back down to his room he was caught with pot again.
He is quite adimant that it should be legalized and is not bad for him. We let him know that even if it was legal here he would still be underage and he is not allowed to smoke it. We have also been doing random drug tests on him. Last week his test was positive.
Last night out 12 yr old DD walked into his room and he was smoking an ecig. I flipped. He was not apologetic and asked if we would rather he was smoking pot. But should I have flipped out? It could have been worse right?
We are really at our wits end. He's a good kid. Very good tempered. He is also a soccer player and we try to enforce the state HS league rules for him that if he gets caught he wouldn't be able to play soccer. I'm told by other parents that even the band kids smoke pot. Yes I did some, but in college not the 9th grade!
I think a big part of this is I am ashamed of my parenting abailities and see this as a reflection of me.
We haven't givien him a consquence yet for last night (letting him sweat it out) and will do so today. We plan to take the door off his room again and cancel his paypal account so he can't buy thinks online anymore.
Help?
Thanks.
