Debate vs Bashing
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| Tue, 10-03-2006 - 2:54pm |
LG wrote in the "Why Women Stay When Men Stray" thread: Hey, I am all for someone not wanting to broach a topic on this board, whether it is too personal, rubs you wrong or would give out TMI, but that is the time, IMO, to ignore the topic, not throw out the arguement, "it's my business" and expect to call it debating.
ITA! I am new here and have been lurking the past few days - doing lots of catch up reading. I realize you all have lots of history with each other, but there is too much bashing and too little debate going on here with many threads going way OT. Example: asking Hope, ad nauseum, about something personal she's obviously reluctant to answer; having a link deleted because it had TIES to a FORMER ku klux klan leader (I admit I was thrown by that for a minute until I actually read the article and learned that he is reformed and now an evangelist); posting the link to begin with when it was obviously a personal attack against a debater.
I'm wondering how many other lurkers out there have an opinion, but are afraid to weigh in because they don't want to get skewered. Don't you all think everyone, be they a BS, WS or AP, deserve to voice their opinions here. This is a debate board after all. (Not talking to everyone here - Jemmie, I think you are an angel.)
Psalms 25:4-5

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Id,
As another poster who joined around the same time as you, I'd like to say that I couldn't have said that better myself. I've been chewed up and spit out more than my fair share of times. Sometimes I walked away, and then after awhile, I poke in to see what others are up to. Nicely said Id, nicely said.
Sassy
(((Sassy)))
I remember how much your posts resonated with me. I thought of you as one of my ASB mentors and I was very sad when you left. I completely understood it though, as I have taken several months off here and there. I go through periods of thinking, "I have moved past this now and it's time to move on with my life."
AND THEN OUT OF NOWHERE, THE DEMONS LEAVE THEIR CALLING CARD.
I know it's definitely not because there is any remote possibility of starting the affair up again, but I had to acknowledge that my past behaviors will always be part of who I am, regardless of the alterations I have made. Like an alcoholic who should attend meetings on a regular basis, the ASB help me to continue walking a straight line.
Having you back would be a great asset to this board <> ;-)
Iddy
Edited 10/18/2006 8:13 am ET by still_lg
>>Btw, I have to ask what you (and actually everyone else) what they thought of PS's efforts and her *leaving*.<< It's a bummer. She's different and pretty nice if you ask me. Seemed really sincere.
>>Do you think that Newbies have a hard time *adapting* to this board?<< Yes I do. Because of all the drama of the past there is still residue I think. I'm not counting myself out of that, don't worry no finger pointing!
>>Do you think Lurkers have a tough time when they voice their thoughts?<< Perhaps. Everyone is getting accused of being anyone and anything under the sun. I understand where it stems from, but it still sucks for them and us when we lose them.
>>Just wondering why most of the new posters leave.<< See above.
>>Is this making sense? It does to me. <<
Thanks. It did to me but I had a ton in my head so I wasn't sure. Can anyone tell how far behind I am? PS already has left by your post to me lol. Geez!
~~As long as those challenges are put forward respectfully and constructively, then it's a debate. If not, it's a bashing-session.~~
Or it's just a discussion.
What do you think is the difference between a debate and a discussion?
Kayla xox
From Monty Python:
http://www.infidels.org/library/modern/mathew/sn-python.html
Edited to say: It SOOOOO reminds me of here.....
Edited 10/20/2006 12:12 pm ET by sassygirl1968
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