I'M HEARTBROKEN

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I'M HEARTBROKEN
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Sat, 09-30-2006 - 6:56pm

i have been so heratbroke & sad for my older son.
his girlfriend up & left him. they got into a spat about him & jeremy acting up at the store about 2 weeks ago. she went to go stay at her dad's for the night but came back the next day while he was out & took all her stuff.he thought she was just being hormonal but she says she has no intenetions of coming back.
i found out this isn't the first time she been like this. he likes everyone to think everything is fine so he never shared. but then he & i are not that close(long story)so i have always been left out. apparently she has been slowly pushing him away since she found out she was pregnant. like it is all his fault her life is upside down!

i have cried too much as it is hard to see him go from on top of the world to deeply depressed.he just mopes about all day & refuses to talk about it. he is so scared he will not see his child grow up.i was so looking forward to having the baby here one day a week or more if i could!! now...who knows what is going to happen.

i have told my family & they are all going to send baby stuff to me. if i get invited to her shower i will bring a few things from my family. but i will keep most the stuff for him. my sisters are helping me get things for him to have at his place. he painted the baby room so pretty,too.
one hard part is he really doesn't want people to know. he is so upset & embarrassed-why?...don't know- so i have to act like everything is good in front of certain people. it really s#cks! i am just so upset. is it me? why has this been the norm these days? like splitting families is so glorified? it is such a throw away world anymore. why fix a problem...just wlak away..it is so much easier..isn't it? i'd love to be a fly on the wall and hear a conversation about this between him & his father or the father's mistress giving him advice!!
the hardest part is just sitting here not being able to do anything for him. i pray that somehow this will all come to pass and everything will be ok.

thanks for listening...you are such a great group :O)
pat

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Sat, 09-30-2006 - 7:47pm
{{{Pat}}}
So sorry to hear this hon ::sigh::
Maybe they will get back together?
She will let him see his baby so try not to worry about that.
How much longer does she have to go now?
Let's keep our fingers crossed that she gets smarts & they get back together.
Don't give up & try to stay positive hon :)






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Sun, 10-01-2006 - 3:04am
(((((Aw Pat))))))))), that is not good news and I'm sorry it is happening to your son and that you are suffering from it...
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Sun, 10-01-2006 - 6:11am

Oh Pat, I am so sorry that your son & GF are having problems & that it has affected

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Sun, 10-01-2006 - 7:11am

(((hugs))) I'm sorry this is happening. Your right to be upset and to trying to kept a positive attitude this may pass.


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Sun, 10-01-2006 - 7:35am

he stopped by last night and is not doing good. she won't speak to him or return phone calls or even respond to an email.she is changing the baby's name and won't tell him what the new name will be.she wouldn't tell him when her dr.appt are-said there was no need for him to be there. he just wants to see her grow & be there when she is born.i sure hope the gf will change her ways and at least be civil for the sake of the baby.
jeremy told me what happened the night before she left. she blew up because the boys were acting like little kids while shopping- like they always do- they like to play marco/polo in the store.or they fill the shopping cart with whatever is on the shelf you happen to pass by! she said he was way too immature. they do this when with me-for years- and i pretend i do not know them!!
he said he emailed her to try counseling to work things out but she never answered.i told him he should go and he said he's already thought of that. he is opening up a little more to me. his friends are a great comfort to him.he came by to get jeremy. they spend alot of their spare time together.

thanks for the comfort :O)

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Sun, 10-01-2006 - 7:48am

thanks bunny,
it is so nice to have the friends here for comfort :O)

she is due in january. he said she has been like this on & off since finding abot being pregannt. she blames him for ruining her plans...like it is all his fault she is pregnant.the last couple months she would not let him touch her except maybe a hug . he wants them to go to counseling but she won't talk to him at all. he is going to go by himself sometime.
i am hoping maybe her family will help her see that they can work it out. but justin said they won't say anything to him about things.who knows...there is always hope

how are you doing? hope you are feeling better today and getting some rest

pat

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Sun, 10-01-2006 - 7:55am

thank you, paula

i sure hope this will all work out. the way she is being towards him it doesn't look like she wants things to work out.he just has to hold himself together somehow. work & school keeps him busy. he just doesn't like being alone.

have a great day

pat

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Sun, 10-01-2006 - 10:00am
Perhaps your ds does need to do some maturing
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Sun, 10-01-2006 - 11:19am
Hey Pat,
I wanted to say that your son needs to keep trying.
While she may see him as immature ..
That is exactly how she is acting & someone needs to remind her of that ::blush::
As Suzan said .. they are both young & immature.
However they can learn better together raising their child.
Do keep us posted & sure hope she comes to her senses soon :)






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Sun, 10-01-2006 - 11:44am
((((((((Pat))))))) I sure hope things work out, tons of p&pt's





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