I'M HEARTBROKEN
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| Sat, 09-30-2006 - 6:56pm |
i have been so heratbroke & sad for my older son.
his girlfriend up & left him. they got into a spat about him & jeremy acting up at the store about 2 weeks ago. she went to go stay at her dad's for the night but came back the next day while he was out & took all her stuff.he thought she was just being hormonal but she says she has no intenetions of coming back.
i found out this isn't the first time she been like this. he likes everyone to think everything is fine so he never shared. but then he & i are not that close(long story)so i have always been left out. apparently she has been slowly pushing him away since she found out she was pregnant. like it is all his fault her life is upside down!
i have cried too much as it is hard to see him go from on top of the world to deeply depressed.he just mopes about all day & refuses to talk about it. he is so scared he will not see his child grow up.i was so looking forward to having the baby here one day a week or more if i could!! now...who knows what is going to happen.
i have told my family & they are all going to send baby stuff to me. if i get invited to her shower i will bring a few things from my family. but i will keep most the stuff for him. my sisters are helping me get things for him to have at his place. he painted the baby room so pretty,too.
one hard part is he really doesn't want people to know. he is so upset & embarrassed-why?...don't know- so i have to act like everything is good in front of certain people. it really s#cks! i am just so upset. is it me? why has this been the norm these days? like splitting families is so glorified? it is such a throw away world anymore. why fix a problem...just wlak away..it is so much easier..isn't it? i'd love to be a fly on the wall and hear a conversation about this between him & his father or the father's mistress giving him advice!!
the hardest part is just sitting here not being able to do anything for him. i pray that somehow this will all come to pass and everything will be ok.
thanks for listening...you are such a great group :O)
pat

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yes there are times i tell him he needs to grow up a bit more!! she comes from a split family too.i think she has been overwhelmed with too much being pregnant & not going back to college this year like her other friends did. i want to know- just like he does- the real reason WHY. yes...i know...sometimes we just never find out why and sometimes there is no reason only a "just because". guess it is the same reason why some lives seem so smooth and other a rough road.
it is hard for me to tell him about certain things because he still blames me for our family falling apart...even tho it was his father's affair that was the cause.
been playing on the puter most the day for fun!!
yes , i do agree that they both need maturing....but don't most kids in their early 20's?i sure hope she comes around & they get counseling for the baby's sake,too.
i'll let you know what happens. it is nice to have somewhere to unload and get encouragement back :O)
thank you, dawnie,
i sure hope they can work it out :O)
thanks michelle,
they have been split for over a week now. he said he is trying to give her space but wants to see her & talk to her.
i really don't know what her family thinks.i really haven't asked about them yet. justin has only talked to her brother. he is upset they split but hopes they can be friends for the baby. i have not met her family.
it is just so upsetting. someday...something will go right
((((( Pat )))))
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