Can you say No?

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Can you say No?
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Tue, 01-23-2007 - 12:02am
 

***Can't Say "No"?


Ever notice how some women seem to be able to say no gracefully, then walk away without a hint of guilt? They're the women who have time to get a massage or a manicure on the weekend, or just sit on the deck and read a magazine. They're not overcommitted -- yet they still seem to accomplish a lot. And they don't have that nagging sense that their to-do list is never done.


This quiz will help you figure out if you overcommit, and why.


http://quiz.ivillage.com/health/tests/overcommit.htm



Let us know how you do :)

 

 
 


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Tue, 01-23-2007 - 6:48am
Just Say No

You are giving knee-jerk reactions to requests for your time. Analyze whether this is because you have such a hard time saying no, try to keep up with your coworkers or other family members, or just have a foggy idea of how much time your existing commitments require. Take small steps, such as saying no to telemarketers or people peddling products outside the grocery store. Practice makes it easier.



Yup, that sounds like me !! I am getting better at telling those foolish telemarketers--NO- I don't want to !!

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Tue, 01-23-2007 - 8:36am
Guilted by Others

You probably don't overcommit often, but you sometimes say yes when you should say no. Think back to the last four times you said yes when you should have said no or wished you'd said no. What led you to say yes? Was it the persuasiveness of the other person? Guilt that the person had asked you before and you'd declined? Or something simpler, such as forgetting to check your calendar and then discovering you had another commitment that day?


This is fairly accurate, although it was a little tough because, being home all day, I do have a good deal of free time and don't need to check my calendar or consult with a boss or something. But I admit, I've said yes sometimes when I should have, or wanted to, say no.


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Tue, 01-23-2007 - 10:05am
Glad it kind of fits Bunny,
It does take *practice* to say No doesn't it?
Love to hear you're doing better with that :)
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 10:07am
Being home does make it harder to say no Ann,
However sometimes I feel taken advantage of because of that, kwim?
The hanging up part .. well no need to be rude.
However they seem to call at dinner time which gets me :)
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Tue, 01-23-2007 - 12:45pm
Life of Leisure
You have a strong sense of priority, probably realize that leisure time is valuable for recharging and have thought about what you want to accomplish in life -- and which goals are most important. To keep up the good work, stay current with your responsibilities by figuring out, on a weekly or daily basis, what tasks occupy your time -- and whether you are spending too much time on obligations or tasks that don't fulfill your life goals.





*Triggers for overcommitting vary from person to person. For some women, "old tapes" from childhood are the root cause. You don't want to displease a parent, a favorite aunt, a grandmother, a teacher. So you always say yes to certain people, whatever the request.


The second half is maybe why I don't have a problem with saying no. I don't have these kind of "old Tapes" from childhood in my head. Maybe I'm just lazy...lol...

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 1:10pm
Dooubt you're lazy Paula,
It is hard to say no sometimes.
least we can keep practicing til we get it right :)
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Tue, 01-23-2007 - 4:12pm
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Tue, 01-23-2007 - 4:34pm
Good one Jennifer,
Means you know how to say no .. yay for you :)
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