Who doYou try to avoid during family ...

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Thu, 11-20-2008 - 12:05am

Who doYou try to avoid during family holiday parties?



  • Grandma
  • Grandpa
  • Uncle______
  • Aunt______
  • The Brother in Law
  • The Sister in Law
  • The Brother
  • The Sister
  • We don't have family get togethers
  • Other .. please share


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Registered: 01-18-2003
Thu, 11-20-2008 - 2:08pm

It's sad when family's are like that....I had many years of driving 45 miles to my mom and mil for the holiday's....hated it but it kept them happy.....My sister and I suggested to mom one year to have our Christmas dinner/gift exchange the weekend before and then we could all stay home on Christmas.....that went over like a lead balloon! So we did it mom's way....meaning we had to be at her house Christmas Eve and Christmas Day....and many times having to drive in heavy fog.....


Now my dd lives 35 miles from us and doesn't want to have to do that driving in the fog...plus now she has a s/o who's family expects them at their house....they live 35 miles in the other direction.....and my dgc have to spend some of time with their dad and his family.....makes it hard on everyone if someone doesn't give up a little....So I told

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Registered: 01-18-2003
Thu, 11-20-2008 - 2:14pm

Donna, you mentioned once having an online family wish list...
I'd sure like to have that site....it would be

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Registered: 10-13-2008
Thu, 11-20-2008 - 2:17pm

In years waaaay past I would have said a brother-in-law and his wife! These days there is no need to avoid anybody...we're all a very warm loving group! My inlaws used to have about 34 of us for Thanksgiving Dinner! It was quite a group, the priests, Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, Children, Spouses and Grands---we were quite the group! lol The meal was always pretty much the same Menu, which was just fine and with the exception of Moms' annual servings of carrots & parsnips the meal was delicious; in reference to the mentioned dish--for whatever reason my MIL decided her 3 sons loved this dish and in spite of their trying to explain that she was mistaken...year after year she would bring the large bowl out and present it to her eldest son---and he would start passing it round the table...so it would go until someone would finally put it on the sideboard where it would sit untouched! My dear MIL never commented ever!


As for the sil/bil they would arrive late after having had cocktail hour with friends and after greeting the group in general proceed to try and start arguments with different members of the family. I became very good at avoiding them as did other family members---not talking to them only made them more determined. After a few years of this behavior my fil finally showed them the door one year and told them not to return, they weren't welcome. These days we have dinner with our children or at our childrens, some years we've visited my brother and enjoyed the day with that part of the family. This year my daughter is hosting the feast, my brother and sil will be visiting and our son and family will be at friends...still it will be a nice loving group!


Just the way a holiday should be spent!

      BREE !   

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Thu, 11-20-2008 - 2:34pm

Oh wow I can't believe I left out MIL Rae,
Not enough space for everyone, LOL
Wow on your MIL & that Uncle ::gasp::


Tell me about it. For years I had to put up with it. DH couldn't see how bad it was because I was always complaining about it. It made him feel defensive. Then I found a wonderful IL message board to vent to and DH started to see things more clearly. Now his uncle knows better or else he knows we are leaving.
I would a void them both like the plague
Hope you don't have to encounter them too often.
What does DH have to say about his Mom ?


DH and his brother are both done with their mom. Lately they have even taken to telling her off for her antics. She isn't liking it one bit but it has been a long time coming.
Good luck as I know you'll need it :)


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Registered: 01-18-2003
Thu, 11-20-2008 - 2:41pm

OMG Glenda....just stay home and forget the rest of the family....not worth all that you have to put up with!!


The holidays should be fun not stressful~~



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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 11-20-2008 - 3:15pm
Hi Bree,
Wow on that dish to funny
Oh gosh on what your FIl did .. good for him I say.
Too bad it took awhile but better he did then never.
You're right how the holidays should be spent ..
Sounds like you have the best times now as you should.
So nice to know you can really enjoy them & that you are with your loved ones like that :)

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Thu, 11-20-2008 - 3:18pm

Oh, sorry Fran, it's not a website. It's a program designed by a friend of my DSonIL's that my DSIL


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Registered: 09-01-2003
Thu, 11-20-2008 - 3:19pm

yeh...that would be my youngest...how did you ever guess?lol she is not a very nice person and mom makes excuses & lies for her. we all think it's funny because we all know what is really going on &mom doesn't think we know~ we just let her go! yes...we are baaad ...lol


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Registered: 09-01-2003
Thu, 11-20-2008 - 3:26pm
you need to avoid that whole family. grant can go there & you can go see your aunt :O)

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Thu, 11-20-2008 - 3:27pm
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