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Thu, 12-04-2008 - 10:05am

re: tired on Thursday
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from: mrs.jackfrost
to: tulipabeni
date: 8:03 am

Morning All

So what is a special day/ holiday/family get together without someone pissed at me. Well not a day in my life, that is for sure!!

Thats right Janelle moved Austins bday party again. Now the 14th. She AGAIN was askinmg about christmas again. She knows we always have christmas.

So grant FINALY calls her last night. First tells her we can't come to austins bday. But instead of telling her he copuld not get time off...esp this close to christmas. No he says it is too stressful with her mom and step dad there. So her back is us right away. Her mom, she says, is coming and bringing her hubby cory weather he wants to come or not. Told him he was doing it for the kids. Well this jerk mouthed to anyone that would listen last time. Thank god grant is deaf...but i had heard it and worked at keeping them apart.We alos left early so there was no fight. I later told grant what was said...he knew there was more to it when i was so distracted later. He said he would have confronted him...so guess i did the right thing.
So then she is on about me being sick and that is the real reason....grant said partly. Thanks! Make me the fall guy!
Then she says that we don't go to the party...she will not see us for christmas. She complained about the 2 hour drive(we drive it at spead limit for abput 1 hr 20 minites.)
Then she complains that the kids hate dogs and not fond of the cat.
So grant is upset. she has christmas eve and morning with her mom and will go to her soon to be ex inlaws over 4 hours away for part of christmas.

Now we thought it would be easier us not going to the party and less stressful for everyone,Janelle esp., the poor girl that we had to give our air conditioner and upright freezer to. But she is renting the town pool and party romm bside the pool for2 hours. Not cheap! We were all to go in swim suits.Now her mom and dad talk about us in ordinary clothes being fat...can you imaging in swim suits?? Grant alsocan't swim if there is a fight.i am also called the pig and fat b__ch.Her mom calls grant pork chop or worse.

So this is our world.

Now add our adhd kittle and the ornament attacks, the tree stand leaking to a full flood and warping the hardwood, Arliss not calling yet, ...it goes on and on!

The prime minister may be over thrown, my ex's sisters lawyer sent another letter demanding i give them the kids addresses, the oilfield dieing in ressession. It is all too much.

add to that the galbladder attacks and the womans stuff here again.

Just another day calgone could not take you away from!


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Registered: 10-13-2008
In reply to: mrs_jackfrost
Fri, 12-05-2008 - 8:09pm
Glenda.....take your time...no need to rush.

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In reply to: mrs_jackfrost
Sat, 12-06-2008 - 2:26am
Duane I would be there every weekend! Just a gorgeous view,, it looks so peaceful. Does your dw like to spend thime there with you?
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In reply to: mrs_jackfrost
Sat, 12-06-2008 - 9:00am
Yeah my wife and I are complete opposites in some ways and the same in others. I love her dearly, but here lately things have been a bit strained. For some reason I just do not feel the same attraction to her that I use to. Not sure what the problem is. Not sure if it is me or her, but we seem to argue about the littlest of things. I will tell ya though a person can put up with alot of crap when a child is involved though.
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In reply to: mrs_jackfrost
Sat, 12-06-2008 - 9:03am
LOL!! Well that is good to hear. At least you found time to get away and have some time for yourselves. Well heck though you know you could take Thomas with you if you and Grant decided to load of the RV to take off.
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Sat, 12-06-2008 - 9:09am
No my wife actually does not like it at the cabin. I guess she gets bored. I mean my mom has a computer and has a DSL so she could get on the comp and play her second life game if she wanted or could go surf the web, but no she insists on just lounging around and sleeping which really ticks me off. I guess being a guy there is much more for me to do up there. I go out and help my step dad cut wood and blacksmith and go hunting and pretty much stay outside all day so that could be part of the problem. Oh yeah I may not have mentioned it before but my step dad is a certified blacksmith my wife is actually designing him a website to put his wares on. If you want to check out some of the stuff he makes he puts alot of it on Ebay and sells it. You should see the pot rack he built my mom. He hung a old sled from hooks that he black smithed from the ceiling then made a bunch more hooks for her to hang her pots from its pretty cool.
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In reply to: mrs_jackfrost
Sat, 12-06-2008 - 10:41am

Hi j-man, your comments are interesting....how long have you been married?

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In reply to: mrs_jackfrost
Sat, 12-06-2008 - 11:14am

Well I do appreciate your comments and advice. I have been married for 12 years and you are right it takes two to make things go bad or go right. I have tried talking to my wife and she is the type of person that does not like to talk about how she feels and I am the opposite. Also after our lovely son come into this world he sex drive went down the tubes. As you can tell from my posts I am a very sexual person maybe even a nympho in fact, but when you are not getting what you need at home the mind starts to wander, and then eventually the rest of you. I have never cheated on my wife in a physical sense but I have in fact through online affairs I guess you could call it.

Ok lets back up a bit you need the whole story so this is gonna be long. When we first got married I was and she was 19. She had a car crash and her parents kicked her out of the house and she had no place to go so my parents let her move in with us. Long story short we ended up getting married.

Things were rough at first financially as with most young couples but my wife had never had to manage money before and had never had any responsiabilites before, because her parents would not make her have any. Well anyway she and I both started getting credit cards at 20 years old I had over a 725 credit rating because of all the credit cards I had plus loans. At 20 years old I was in debt bad but was making the payments on everything but just barely. Then comes the wife and she figured out she could forge my name and get credit cards in her name with me co-signing. Well as you can imagine where this went next thing I know I had managable debt but then went into sinking mode. Not long after we were married I became overwhealmed and just had to give up and file for bankruptcy. Well there was strike one in our relationship, she basically destroyed me financially with her excessive spending and not working.

So things go along kinda bumpy but we are doing better because the bankruptcy relieved a huge burden off me. Then she got a job and started working for an electrical company as a secretary and we were doing pretty good. Then things moved on and she started actually doing electrical work and we both got a job with the same contractor and we were doing fairly well financially.

Well then come along a new computer and the internet. My wife started to play this game called Everquest. Well she was immediatly hooked. Well when I saw it I became hooked as well. Not long after she started playing this online game she started missing more and more work, and I will admit that I missed my fair share of days as well on account of this game, but eventually she quit her job, and as you can imagine this impacted us financially again.

Well over the course of time that she played this game, which was 5 years, she would nothing but sit in front of the computer. I would get home from work go in say hi then go get on my computer and she would stay on hers and that is how we spent are evenings. I mean we would take breaks to do some adult things togeather quite often but that is another story I want imbelish on right now.

Things went on like this for years. Things in this Everquest game went bad for me and my wife. I got introduced to the online world of cybering from this game and meeting women and having online relationships with them through this game, and my wife knew nothing about it because she was in her own little world in her room on her computer. Well eventually I changed my life and started going through a religious period in my life. I basically became a big Bible thumper so in this I gave up the online relationships and started attending church alot and most time she would stay at home. Well one day I started doing some investigating on her computer and come to find out I was not the only one that was having these online affairs. I found countless emails from different guys and most had not a clue she was married and it was very painful to read these, but in retrospect I was no better. When I went through my religious period I actually confessed to her all the wrongs that I had done to her behind her back and she felt guilty I guess and forgave me.

After all this we eventually stopped playing this game as how it pretty much destroyed our life. Then we started playing another online game and the same kinda stuff started happening again, but this time I was prepared for it, I ended up moving our computers right next to each other so that way we could not hide anything from each other.
I am not perfect by no means what so ever I mean she has caught me looking at porn and all sorts of stuff we have had a rocky marriage from the get go to say the least, but the sex was always good ROFL!!!

Well time passed on we eventually stopped playing online games for awhile til World of Warcraft came out then we both started playing it. This time things were different though because we had already went through our addictive to game stage and now we played games at a more casual pace or whenever we had nothing else to do.

Then our son come along and the game playing my part has pretty much stopped all togeather. Now when I get home my son gets my undivided attention til he goes to bed at 8 or 9 then I may get on my game and play for an hour or so before I go to bed and that is about it. Now my wife on the other hand, I have a feeling that she is spending way more time of the computer during the day than she needs to but I can not prove this. She is a good mother to my son and I will never say different but I do not feel that she gives him the attention that he deserves during the day. Most the time when I get home she is not on the computer and is either watching TV or playing with my son, which is a good thing, but as soon as I get home most the time she goes straight for the comp. Then she either plays her Second life account or designs stuff for her Second life game or she watches animae , point is she is not spending time with my son and myself.

I have talked to her several times but everytime I do she gets mad when I ask her to get off the computer and to spend time with us, so now instead of sitting there watching her pout and get mad about not getting on her computer I just don't say anything and take my son in the other room and play until it is time for him to go to bed.

This sounds like a sad existence but I am comfortable and I believe she has grown comfortable and I think in here lies the problem.

Also the sex has died off almost completely and you all know me well enough to know that this just does not work for me.

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In reply to: mrs_jackfrost
Sat, 12-06-2008 - 12:33pm
well j man,,, maybe your dw feels ignored when you are there ,,, going to a neat cabin and then just playing on the computer maybe is not her idea of a great time... while you are off playing
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Sat, 12-06-2008 - 7:43pm
Well at least you've got a sense of humor about it. My son was joking that Grandpa was burying Gma in the front yard the other day.

 

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In reply to: mrs_jackfrost
Sat, 12-06-2008 - 11:54pm
Remember that when people read letters they don't always read them in the context or emotions that was meant. It can take on a whole different meaning and could really backfire on you. Just be prepared for the worst, especially for that particular recipient. Good luck!!


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