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Thu, 12-04-2008 - 10:05am

re: tired on Thursday
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from: mrs.jackfrost
to: tulipabeni
date: 8:03 am

Morning All

So what is a special day/ holiday/family get together without someone pissed at me. Well not a day in my life, that is for sure!!

Thats right Janelle moved Austins bday party again. Now the 14th. She AGAIN was askinmg about christmas again. She knows we always have christmas.

So grant FINALY calls her last night. First tells her we can't come to austins bday. But instead of telling her he copuld not get time off...esp this close to christmas. No he says it is too stressful with her mom and step dad there. So her back is us right away. Her mom, she says, is coming and bringing her hubby cory weather he wants to come or not. Told him he was doing it for the kids. Well this jerk mouthed to anyone that would listen last time. Thank god grant is deaf...but i had heard it and worked at keeping them apart.We alos left early so there was no fight. I later told grant what was said...he knew there was more to it when i was so distracted later. He said he would have confronted him...so guess i did the right thing.
So then she is on about me being sick and that is the real reason....grant said partly. Thanks! Make me the fall guy!
Then she says that we don't go to the party...she will not see us for christmas. She complained about the 2 hour drive(we drive it at spead limit for abput 1 hr 20 minites.)
Then she complains that the kids hate dogs and not fond of the cat.
So grant is upset. she has christmas eve and morning with her mom and will go to her soon to be ex inlaws over 4 hours away for part of christmas.

Now we thought it would be easier us not going to the party and less stressful for everyone,Janelle esp., the poor girl that we had to give our air conditioner and upright freezer to. But she is renting the town pool and party romm bside the pool for2 hours. Not cheap! We were all to go in swim suits.Now her mom and dad talk about us in ordinary clothes being fat...can you imaging in swim suits?? Grant alsocan't swim if there is a fight.i am also called the pig and fat b__ch.Her mom calls grant pork chop or worse.

So this is our world.

Now add our adhd kittle and the ornament attacks, the tree stand leaking to a full flood and warping the hardwood, Arliss not calling yet, ...it goes on and on!

The prime minister may be over thrown, my ex's sisters lawyer sent another letter demanding i give them the kids addresses, the oilfield dieing in ressession. It is all too much.

add to that the galbladder attacks and the womans stuff here again.

Just another day calgone could not take you away from!


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In reply to: mrs_jackfrost
Sun, 12-07-2008 - 4:36am
oh my,
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Registered: 02-06-2008
In reply to: mrs_jackfrost
Sun, 12-07-2008 - 9:46am
Well alot of that stuff I have already tried. Last night though I was surprised she actually told me she was getting burned out on playing the games and actually wanted to sit in the living room with me and son and partook in our play time so I guess maybe that is a start. She has been getting better a bit lately so who knows maybe it will work out.
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Registered: 10-13-2008
In reply to: mrs_jackfrost
Sun, 12-07-2008 - 11:43am

Good Morning j-man,


Just read your reply to my post....quite eye opening!

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In reply to: mrs_jackfrost
Sun, 12-07-2008 - 11:48am

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In reply to: mrs_jackfrost
Sun, 12-07-2008 - 12:30pm

Hey I appreciate all the advice. Thing is my wife and I do not argue much in front of my son because I will not argue. We actually do not argue much it is actually the opposite we rarely communicate is the problem. Things are getting a bit better because I am making an effort to make them that way. I have been meaning to sit my wife down and tell her that I am unhappy with the way things are right now, but know her how well I do then she will probably get all mad and then start pouting and not talk things through with me. Or she may feel the same way and is just not saying anything.

I am sorry but separation or divorce is just not an option to me. I am sorta old fashioned in that sense. When I was growing up my mom was married and divorced 7 times. That is alot of step daddys. Let me tell you there was really only one that was not a total piece of crap, I love my mom to death but she has had terrible taste in men. Now she has a good one, but in my opinion the man I call my farther was the best and why she left him I have no idea said she feel out of love with him more like she loved him as a sibling versus a husband and I was grown at the time when they seperated so I took it alot better. She said she stayed with him because of me, but anyway getting off track. I will not put my son through this, I will not let another man raise my child. I will not be a part time parent. So here is the problem. My wife does not work it is not by my choice but I guess by hers. She does however work around the house and raises our child so that in itself is a job. She is getting enrolled in school for January she is going to go to school to be a web graphics designer and I feel that she would do really well with it. Thing is if we were to seperate the state of Tennessee usually gives custody of the child to the mother, now they are leaning more towards a 50/50 split the father gets the child one week the mother the other. Thing is she has no means to support my son and to provide for him the way he deserves, not even with child support would this be possible, so I have to do something to work things out so that I am not so miserable at home all the time. I guess the best thing to do is to sit her down and try and rekindle that old flame we use to have, because the computer is becoming less and less of an issue now so that is one major problem behind us now I think it is just up to me to take charge and make things work.

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In reply to: mrs_jackfrost
Sun, 12-07-2008 - 5:48pm

j-man......sounds to me as if you have taken some very positive steps towards getting your marriage back on track....remember I said there has to be a "hero" in every relationship, well this time that's become you....congratulations!! Divorce should always be the very last step...and you clearing see that.. Hope you don't tell your wife that she doesn't work....'cause being a Mother and homemaker is a 24/7 job no matter how you might look at it...been ther done that!! a comment like that to a woman is like a slapo in the face---a red flag warning!!lol...honest!


With your son starting school in the fall of 2009 and your wife planning to return to school and pursuing Graphic Arts, looks like she has given thought to her future...in fact you both seem to find great value in furthering your education.....excellent!!! Your wife probably could work from home as opposed to an office, if that's what she would like.


When it gets down to your personal/sexual relationship that's something you'll have to work out between you....actions do speak louder then words, but in your case perhaps a little action and some "pillow-talk" will probably be called for...a kiss good morning, hello, goodbye, goodnight along with a gentle hug is a nice beginning, but you do have to really mean it...you know? I do think you're making an effort...taking a few steps....see what/how she reacts/responds....she has to do her part too! Perhaps include her in a days outing with your son to a zoo or animal park/botanical garden in full bloom something where you can be carefree....a fun day,, maybe someplace you know she really enjoys, surprise her...just a thought.


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