Update on Toxic Friend

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Registered: 06-26-2006
Update on Toxic Friend
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Mon, 12-15-2008 - 12:57pm

I have an update on my toxic friend story.

I just spoke to her and I told her that I have decided not to take her offer and that I appreciate her thinking of me. I told her that I've been thinking about it and that's not the direction I want to go and that it's only fair that she finds someone who wants that more than me. There was a bit of silence on her part and she still asked me if I wanted some freelance work for this week and I said no thanks. She sounded a bit offended but I don't care.

She then wanted to know details of where I'm going next. I only told her that I've learned not to share my plans because sometimes it attracts negative energy. :)

So I finally told her well good luck with your clients. I know she's going to continue harassing me but I'll just ignore her... BTW... she just called me again asking if I'm going to do a media training next week, which I didn't even know I was doing. I told her I would pass. I still have to return the work laptop she gave me and her office key. I know it's stupid but I felt a bit afraid to tell her at first. I don't know why. Part I guess because I don't want to hurt her feelings but she's hurt mine so many times. I hope she leaves me alone.

Rebelde76

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Registered: 03-14-2007
Mon, 12-15-2008 - 1:17pm

After reading your other post, I'm glad to hear you have taken this stand. You cannot be controlled or minipulated unless you allow it to be. Taking control of your life and ending this "friendship" is a positive move. Now it's up to you whether you want to stand your ground or sink again. Stay in control. Just keep saying to yourself, "Done!", and keep walking away.


Good luck on a better job offer. Let us know what you find.






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Registered: 09-12-2003
Mon, 12-15-2008 - 2:46pm
A job VERY well done,,, but stick to your guns,,,, when returning the laptop and keys