facebook reject

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Registered: 04-11-2003
facebook reject
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Mon, 01-19-2009 - 9:23pm

hi all

got something to run past you. i am on facebook like half the world :) but don't go there that much. i was there today after a few months of not checking in and one of my friends seems to have blocked me off her list. we have been having problems with our friendship: most notably i wasn't there for her when her mother became ill and died (i thought i'd sent her an email saying to let me know if she wanted to talk cuz she's not much for emailing or phoning and realized later that wasn't the way to help her) and then a couple years ago, she said she was trying to forgive me. then i went through some trouble and unloaded my stuff on her (she said she could listen) and she (understandably) went off on me in a reply message. she said she did want to be my friend and that's why she was working on forgiving me from before. i hadn't talked to her much since. a few messages on facebook every few months or so last year. by last september, i was getting jealous of her other friends she hangs out with (i don't live near her) and a bit miffed that i was out of the loop. i did send her a message noting the things she was doing, in particular, being in an open relationship, which i just said i thought would lead to heartbreak (she had already posted some stuff sounding like she was heartbroken or at least hurt from the relationship with this guy) and saying how i didn't even want to touch what she'd mentioned about her sex life. i figured after it might piss her off. so now i seem to be off her facebook and just wondering about it.
she's a truly amazing person and helped me out with some great troubles and triumphs in my life. i hate to lose her as a friend. i think i know her email address and want to email her but want to wait so i'm not pissy in what i say cuz that surely won't help. i just wanted to vent and see what you all think, good or bad. i've been here before complaining cuz i thought i'd lost a friend which i'm still not sure i haven't. (likely due to lack of communication too) i've become somewhat of a hermit, hanging out at home with my pets, but hanging out with new friends where i now live sometimes too.
anyway, anyone has any advice or knows how to get in touch with someone on facebook when you're blocked from contacting them, let me know. thanks all. and i hope your new year is going really well for all of you.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: caylie3
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 12:01am
Hi Caylie,
Welcome to the board :)

Sorry to hear all that has happened between
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In reply to: caylie3
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 10:43am

This is just my feeling, but I would be offended if someone who I seldom spoke to, and who I had a long-standing grudge with (however long ago it was, it apparently still hurts her), contacted me to criticize what I was doing and who I was seeing.


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Registered: 04-11-2003
In reply to: caylie3
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 3:21pm
thanks very much for your reply. i was feeling totally like a hothead and needed some calm, rational thinking and that's what your message is. :) if i don't get a reply, then at least i've tried and not been b*tchy about it. i think maybe cuz i do think about people a lot that i feel like we are connected even though we haven't communicated for a long time. (and now that i say it, duh) thanks again. and i love your cat pic. :)
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Registered: 04-11-2003
In reply to: caylie3
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 3:26pm
i also wanted to say (and maybe this will just sound like an excuse, which i don't mean it to be) i did send a message once in a while and end it with 'drop me a line' or 'hope to talk to you soon' and hadn't heard back since last june at least.
and with facebook, i'm not into all the applications that people add to their pages so i missed six or seven things from her that way in the last year or two. not an excuse just too much security thinking maybe. (not wanting to let everyone into my pages just cuz i have funwall or whatever). just thought of it so thought i'd add it in.