Update on daughter-in-law

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Registered: 09-13-2005
Update on daughter-in-law
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Sun, 08-02-2009 - 7:58pm

For those who have been kind enough to give me your support, and understanding with my situation with my dil, I just wanted to tell you that I got home from work today and....as we sit down to eat my phone rings. Before I continue let me inform you that anything that is said rolls off dil's head. It is like nothing is going on and nothing is wrong.


Back to this phone call, she say ,"hi how are you?" and she says she has two things to tell me. I reply fine, then she continues to ask me if I know this women, her mother's friend and gives me her name, which I reply "I do not know her." Then she goes on and asks again but adds her last name and I still say "I don't know her." Then I do not say anything, and she preceeds in telling me that she died. "Why on earth would I want to know that in the first place? The second thing is, she says, I didn't want you to hear this from a stranger, so I am telling you that the boys and I were in a car accident and we are just fine. I go on and ask her what stranger would call me and tell me that? She mentions two people that know, and I said, these two people are not strangers.


I end off by asking how the boys are, and she replies as always, you can pick up the phone to call them, and I said, GOOD BYE SHARI AND HUNG UP.


Did she think that by calling me and just talking chit chat , that all would be forgotten? NEVER!!!!!! I had enough of her all these years and the time before she forbid me to see  my grandchildren, I had  warned her that if she ever spoke to me in that manner it would  be permantely over.


You can tell her to go to hell, and she just lets it fly over her head, like nothing. Well, she will now know or I think she will, that I was not fooling around. I am a human being and a nice person. My other dil and sil always tell me how much they love me and how fortunate they are to have me in their lives. This nut case doesn't know and probably will never know what she had or what she could of had.


Again, thanks for letting me vent. You would of thought that maybe my son would of picked up the phone to tell me that they were in a car acciedent and they were all fine. Of course not. Maybe it isn't even true, who knows, maybe she is just trying to see if things blew over with her and me. Not in this life time.


 


Love ya ,and hugs to you all

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In loving memory of my dear mother, Rose

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Registered: 09-12-2003
Tue, 08-04-2009 - 6:42am

HI Miriam


That was indeed a very strange conversation.

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Registered: 09-01-2003
Tue, 08-04-2009 - 9:18am

she is an oddball...that's for sure! like you i wonder what her real motive was?? still it is sad she could not or would not put the

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Registered: 09-13-2005
Tue, 08-04-2009 - 1:38pm

Hi Pat,


Yes I agree with you that she is definitely an odd ball. i don't know what her motive was and I really am at the point that I do not

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Registered: 09-13-2005
Tue, 08-04-2009 - 2:15pm

Hi Suzan,


Thank you so much for your support and your wonderful out put. If the tables were turned I would probably give you the same advise you are giving me. It isn't anything that I didn't do already, believe me, but I am

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Registered: 09-12-2003
Tue, 08-04-2009 - 3:12pm
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Registered: 03-08-2005
Wed, 08-05-2009 - 2:33pm

wow


she just won't quit, will she. she is a true nutball!


Now why not tell you how the boys are...instead, tell you to call them. Is her whole family like this??


then you told her you did not know this woman. did she explain how she thought youi knew her?? what a dingbat!


Greg has been trying to get thomas to go camping with him...and thomas' girlfriend. guess he went and talked to thomas' girlfriends parents. Now he said he thought he should because she might on day be family. well should that not be us when the time comes??


I think we need to put your dil and my son in a room and loose the key!

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Registered: 09-13-2005
Wed, 08-05-2009 - 8:55pm


My dil's family is not all there either, as they have weird ways of thinking at times. Dil is a very spoiled girl, got whatever she wanted,still does and she expects a lot and really was not brought up with respect for others at all. She thinks that she has respect and she thinks that things are coming to her, but she is wrong.

You know Glenda sweetheart, when our children are small, we know that we are bringing up our children to respect others, to be thoughtful etc. But......when they grow up and that is if they do ever grow up, they get involved with these girls who don't have a brain in their heads. Then our sons' back bones goes to mush. I want my children to respect and be good to their spouses, but at the same time have a back bone and stand up for what is suppose to be right from wrong.

I am so tired Glenda, from all of this. I did something that I am hoping that I did the right thing. Yesterday, I sent an email to my son at work, and wrote to him that even though he does not phone me any longer I just wanted him to know that I love and will always love him, and that I also miss him alot. I wrote him because at that moment I felt it in my heart to do so. Now he knows how I feel as he is my son and my love for him is unconditional. So now the ball is in his court, but I know down deep inside that he will loose that ball and I will not hear from him.

We had some friends down from Montreal for the day , they just left about 10 minutes ago, and now I must go and get comfy and go downstairs to the family room and relax with my sweetheart.

Much love to you,

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Registered: 09-12-2003
Thu, 08-06-2009 - 7:09am
Glenda, before you lose the key to that room with your
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Registered: 03-08-2005
Thu, 08-06-2009 - 2:41pm

miriam


you this would be a great thread for

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Registered: 03-08-2005
Thu, 08-06-2009 - 2:43pm

LOL it sure would make a great thread LOL


I think we should look for a underground room...to contain the noise LOL

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