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Registered: 03-08-2005
When the advice you want to give will ..
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Sat, 09-05-2009 - 1:58pm

When the advice you give will upset the asker.


I guess since i was supporting myself at 17 i can't get over how some kids think the parents owe them a lifetime of support. Ok some things like...a bad run of luck, loss of job..ect are ok for a while.


Now what got me on this was a girl complaining on FB that her parents would not fix the dent on her car. She wanted it perfect so someday she could get a good trade in.


Now here is the thing. She had the car bought for her by her parents. This is for a working girl...for a couple years now, she also is in school, and has a husband working. Now i bet you guys are thinking...she would need help to go to school. ok maybe??


She is constantly on about going to sporting events, taking trips(two this summer. one with hubby for a week, and one to vegas with her  friends.) She is constantly going out with her friends. her parents take her out for meals too. Then she eats out at least once a week. is constantly buying clothes...you get the drift.


So anyway she was in a huff because her parents told her that her car was older now and wasn't worth the fix, or they would have done it.


I said...could you not take it to an autobody to see what it would cost you and get it fixed?? no reply


So i guess what i was wondering is...do you think her parents should do the repair for her? When would you stop helping??


Just wondering guys. I just personally found this outragious.

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Sat, 09-05-2009 - 2:12pm

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Aw, poor baby. . .my heart bleeds for her. . .NOT.

1. She is married, hence someone else's dependent.

2. She is working.

3. Her parents owe her nothing as the car is most likely in HER name.

If the car belonged to her parents, then it really is up to them to decided if the bodywork is worth the deductible.

I have no sympathy for the kid. My kids bust their asses off working and paying off student loans and they expect nothing from us. We help if we can, but that is because as I said, they ask for nothing.

Your friend has no reason to be tweaked out by your advice.

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Registered: 03-08-2005
Sat, 09-05-2009 - 4:24pm

so glad someone see's it my way. I used to talk to her daily(internet friend)...but got so sick of the mom and dad have to..... It just got to be so bad i thought, these poor people. The kid just does not get it.


then i tought...maybe they just gave her too much and now she expects it. either way, not right.


She has be married for a few years now and they are trying to have a baby. Way to early if she still expects so much from mom and dad.


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Registered: 03-22-2005
Sat, 09-05-2009 - 6:51pm

If she was mine she would have no help,it sounds like she is a spoiled bratt.


Von.

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Sat, 09-05-2009 - 7:46pm

Oh My gosh....what a spoiled brat!!!


 


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Registered: 03-14-2007
Sun, 09-06-2009 - 4:25pm

I agree with you and what the others said too.


We all like to give to our kids when we can or when we just


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Registered: 03-08-2005
Sun, 09-06-2009 - 6:18pm
My thoughts exactly!

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Registered: 03-08-2005
Sun, 09-06-2009 - 6:20pm

Your right ruth


if the parents deside to help and do what she wants...they are not helping her. she needs to grow up!

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Registered: 03-08-2005
Sun, 09-06-2009 - 6:21pm
so true donna!

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Sun, 09-06-2009 - 9:00pm
I agree with you, Deb. Every point you made was spot on. The parents owe the

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