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| Tue, 10-13-2009 - 12:01pm |
In the end i had to tell a friend not to talk to me till he had been to a shrink/therapist.
Thats right...happy birthday!
I think i told you guys about the woman that came out this spring and i would never have her back. well i kept taslking to her because i felt sorry for her. She had told me talking to he saved her life. Well it almost killed my marriage this weekend.
It started with grant not taking anytime off like we talked about so we could go away right away. So saturday morning he goes to work early. Then his family has to call at 8am ...i didn't answer it. Then his mom calls his cell. still not sure how she got his number. Maybe this was all bad karma not having gone to the reunion...not sure.
so grant was off in the afternoon and had a time out for sunday...but was off by noon. Grant had made me a cake...ya thats right. ther big fight last year because i asked him to order me a cake...but no cake mix. tells you he didn't listen again. I got a cake (he made...we all know what kind of cakes men make. No card no nothing. so he has to work sunday ...fine. then i guess we go to the house after and work on it. fine. Then we are working around the house. i deside i might just as well make the turkey sunday ...fine. When will men get what it means when a woman says fine?????????
So we were watching tv and i get a text. Your gift will be there in an hour...well BLEEP! she is 3.5 hours away and has aj with her.Guess what I am nopw making supper, lunch and serving everyone on sunday. She is at our bleeping door. Look what i have done for you...you get a surprize birthday. Ya right. i get unexpected company when i told her we have plans! She said too bleeping bad! we are here now. So i knew if i told her to bleep off , aj would have had to leave too.
she helped herself to everything. we had to stay home sunday as she would not get off the couch...well at least till she had to have a smoke. Then she stole food off the plate i made for the boys because she did not get up for dinner...but then i had to get up and cook more so the boys ate. I was so mad! She had to be in control over the wII thomas brought down. Controlled all games played. i sat down. Grant was mad and went and worked on the closet for a while. Then i get potato's to peel for supper...she is playing and said ....yum potatoes. Then played instead of offering to help. Then she is playing it with my husband...nice...i didn't get to play him pecause she stood up in front of me.
so my sunday feeding people. Then grant put the food away for me. oh by the way he bought a store bought turkey that was stuffed...you know cook frozen? I made some of my stuffing to go with it for thomas and aj per request. She had the nerve to tell me hers is better than both. Thomas said you should have stayed home and made it. No matter where i sat after that she crowded me.
Then we played boards games...well game. she liked the first and would not let it end. I went to bed at 10...she and thomas played it till 1am. Then i had told her the night before we had somewhere to go early in the morning. then we could at least get one day in at the house since grant was not working. Nope she laid on the couch till noon. then had her smoke. So we never got to the house. No. i had the tv sound jacked up, and we were all talking beside her. Then she said...is grant up yet....what??? you don't need to get up because he wasn't. He was upstairs waiting for her to leave. No!! sop then she comes to the puter and hangs on me...starts rubbing my back...it will all be ok. Well i stood up my chair went flying and i walked upstairs. then she went for a smoke. so i told grant we will never get rid of her...we need to go,. he says that we go in an hour or it is not worth it. So she is out back. i talk to the boys out front...i am fed up. now she has ruined my birthday and the whole weekend. Then she stood around the corner and listened.
I have a headache that is HUGE by now. i have no more muscle relaxers and am so mad. i go up to my room turn the tv on low to drown the sound and lock the door. I am falling asleep and she is knocking on the door and turning the know. I ignore. Then she is at it again, about 5 minites later. I am so mad...now she won't leave but has to bug me again after grant told her not to.
she leaves, and goes downstairs. i can't sleep now. I go down...she comes to me with the what is wrong. i have done so much for you this weekend. i used my air miles for fuel and here i am with your son. I came here because i wasnot invited to any of my 3 girls of families for thanksgiving...i knew you would have me here. finally she admitts she was here for her.
she keeps on with the what is wrong...what did grant do. Well i have had enough i come unglued. I tell her exactly what what wrong...in very colorful language too. she goes...but i love you. give me a break i say. you know we had plans and you came and told me when it was too late to tell you to turn back. You knew we wanted to leave early this morning to get stuff done we had to get done...well she said i sleep like a rock...right. TYhe dog was even jumping on her back.
I say it was my birthday i didn't get anything but a $2 box of cake mix. no car no nothing. thomas was the only one that cared enough to get me anything. I spend the whole weekend making meals, serving people , in pain because i have no vehicle to go to the dr or get my pills. i have someone who calls me a friend but does not consider my or anyone elses feelings. When is anyone going to realize that some times it is notjust about you! It was my birthday. the grant being a man says...but i made you a cake...how many men do that. well that was the last straw. i picked up the cake and told them what i thought of my $2 solve all gift and threw it. No my best moment...that is for sure. Aj took off to roxannes car and she gathered her thing like her butt was on fire. All the poo had hit the fan. Thomas was gone to work by them so missed it. I went to my room and cried.
Grant and i have worked it out thankfully. he knows it was because of what she pulled. he forgave me. Thomas was mad he missed the food fight LOL nard!
An hour out she had to text me on facebook. R u ok?? i didn't answer it...but then she started calling thomas' phone. So i texted her back and told her ....All right?? you have got to be kidding me. I am worried about aj and only ag. tell him to call collect. you see he could not call because on the way out she harassed him for money and he through his phone out the car window.
I was up late last night ...grant had to workj so was in bed. I had to fix my puter...did i mention i caught her on it when i said no because i was having trouble with it?? that she had been on my cell phone? That i found her eating chocolate i had put far away. she had gone through my desk cupboard. Then she ate desert for the next day at 1am ...thomas caught her. so what else did she do when i went to bed?
So she sent me a message early in the morning...guess she thought i was in bed. She blamed me for aj being upset. he thought his dad (grant ) was leaving....what?? Then went on about how she was a guest and i was crazy she did nothing to cause anything. i never told her we had plans. i had the whole week before. Then her next text was worse.
Then she was on fasebook telling a friend about how awful i was and that she hoped i was ok. so i wrote her all about her last visit and why we never invited her back. Then i blocked her on facebook. io have to block her on my emails yet today.
too say the least it was an awfulk weekend. sorry it was so long. Yes i am ashamed i lost it like i did. In my defence i have never been pushed that far except by my mom, sister and her daughter. Esp not in my own home. i told her she could never contact me again..at least till she seeks help. I said that is the only way you will get your family(who won't speak to her anymore) or other family members/ friends back.
I am worn out sorry it is so long



Whew..that was exhausting to read!! Glenda, you are your own worst enemy!! After what this woman pulled last time, you kept talking to her because you felt sorry for her?!! Stop that!!!
This woman is beyond toxic!! Close off all communication, block her from everything, do not answer texts or phone calls, nothing!! Close the door and lock it permanently!! Stay away from people like that for they are not worth your time!! If she shows up at your door, do not let her in!! Tell AJ to not travel
Von.
Von.
You are so right Donna
I guess sometimes you have to spare feeling and this is what can happen. i should have blocked her before. Werll she is blocked now and i am glad. i know now why nobody has anything to do with her.
All I can say is, Wow what a weekend and Birthday...
I totally agree with Donna and Suzan. Glad to read that you blocked that woman. You sure don't need her in your life....
Hi Suzan
I took them off on Monday. No more!
I go to facebook for the games now. I will mention it snowed today and talk to a few close friends. that is all i do now.Oh and have given condoliences to people i play games with that have lost a loved one. or a happy birthday.No more.
I just with aj would call. we have not heard from him
Thanks fran
Ya i blocked alot of people that are all doom and gloom. Guess i can't save the world today or anytime soon.