This isn't a question, nor a vent - somewhere in between.
"I know God will not give me more than I can handle, I just wish he wouldn't trust me so much!" Mother Theresa
Aw, that's very sweet. Maybe you could find gifts that are fun and functional.
For example, my mom recently bought some sheets for some children who didn't have decent sheets, but she made sure each set had the child's favorite characters on them. They were so excited and still love their "new room." I bet the thrill has lasted longer than the joy from a new toy would have, too.
Or, if you buy a pair of gloves, maybe you could hide
I saw something on "my" Christmas board that went something like this (for parents giving to their kids)
Something you wantSomething you needSomething to wearSomething to read
~Jackie, BookCrossing Member
~Jackie, BookCrossing Member & Warming Families Volunteer
"Something you wantSomething you needSomething to wearSomething to read"
My family use to have the "twin presents" plan:
1) Something you need but a better quality than you would buy for yourself e.g. a $60 toaster with features (although sometimes we would cheat and buy something that they have to buy but is really expensive and it would help their budget,like my Mom needs to buy special non-prescription - so non-refundable - creams for her skin condition every month)
2) Something fun, usually an entertainment item for over the holiday e.g. book or a DVD of a TV season.
It was a good idea and we liked having the balance of need vs. wants, necessity versus luxury. Also, I think everyone appreciated getting a good quality version of their need! It was a need but still luxurious.
So it was similar to the want, need, wear, read concept but I think the difference of a great quality item is key if you have that Christmas Splurge tradition that you need to maintain. I mean, people say it is too commercial but if you are frugal all year, sometimes you need the treat at the end of the year.