Difference in financial lifestyle?
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|Fri, 06-18-2010 - 12:45pm|
We are a happily married couple with 2 young kids. I am the frugal accountant housewife of the family while he is the breadwinner.
I came from a financially secure family but we had always lived on one income so I know what it's like to be frugal.
He came from a not so financially sound family. He also earns a decent income right now. Being so, he likes to spend on what he wants, since he didn't get everything as a child.
I'm not saying that he's spending left, right and center. Just because he has no idea how much money is in our account, he doesn't think twice when he buys something plus he does earn the money while I stay at home with the kids. Also, he does save us alot of money by doing all the work around the house.
The problem is....how do I speak to him about our finances without me screaming at him and getting super upset? I want him to start thinking about how I am scrimping on our household/grocery expenses while he is spending away on his expensive hobbies (e.g. his racecar, which he doesn't even race anymore since he has no time). I don't know how to bring this up with him calmly. I have solely handled our books for the last 10 years.