Way in over our heads!!!!

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Registered: 04-03-2003
Way in over our heads!!!!
Tue, 04-08-2003 - 9:29pm
I have known for years that I have a spending problem but now it seems it has gone completely out of control. I hid my spending problem behind alcohol but have recently gone to treatment and have been sober since January 17. Unfortunately what happens is my eyes open to all the other problems.

We are in our 30's and $70,000 in credit card debt alone! Not including mortgage, car, etc. Egads. It is mostly due to my overspending on clothes, furniture, trips, etc.

I keep waiting for a "right time to start" and then do it but don't follow through! Egads.

I think I will try a Debtors Anonymous group.

Thanks for letting me vent!


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-09-2003 - 11:06am
Wendy, you have done the very most important thing - Acknowledging your debt. Congratulations! It can have a "sobering" effect on other issues around you that perhaps you were avoiding with shopping and spending. Best of luck to you. We welcome you with open arms at DSG. Please come back anytime and share your thoughts, progress etc.



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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 04-09-2003 - 12:21pm
Hi Wendy,

Just remember to keep sobriety your number one priority, and everything else will fall into place.

If you have time between the meetings that you go to EVERY DAY, as well as talking to your sponsor, helping other alcoholics, praying, meditating, and reading AA approved literature, you might want to try www.flylady.net for some fun. At the same time, you can Fling a bunch of Stuff to consignment shops, and make a little money to pay toward your debt. Babysteps are the simplest, but not the easiest, way to go. We want it all fixed, and NOW! But you didn't get in debt overnight, and you're not going to get out of debt overnight. Just keep plugging away, and you'll be fine.

And don't drink no matter what.

All the best,

Lee Ann, another friend of Bill's

Lee Ann