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I need some support/I need to vent
| Thu, 04-17-2003 - 9:26am |
I'm so tired, my dh and I are working so hard to get things straight that it's wearing on me. I've taken on a nighttime job, it's not everynight but last week it was twice during the week and than on Friday and Saturday night, Saturday night I started at 10pm and got out at 6am, that was a tough one. Making things harder is I have a dd who is 4 and ds who is 3, so it's tough. Also during the week I have to get up at 6am to watch another child, that I babysit for, but I'm doing this job to help with the problems we are having and my dh is working on weekends as well, plus his regular 40+ hour job. So anyways all that said, we finally got caught up on cable, phone, electric...etc, now just too keep it caught up and straight. Now on to cc's which might not be right away, till we get this all figured out but they keep calling day in and day out, I don't understand what that is all about, do they actually think, we won the lottery or have $300+ in a day or two? I'm just so frustrated and trying my hardest to get this all taken care of. There is only so much of this crap one person can take before they go off the deep end. So I just needed to vent and thanks for letting me do so!!
Corinna
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I also work nights because I cannot afford daycare during the day. Although it does help that my chosen proffesion is 24 hr 7 days week and working nights, weekends, and holidays are part of the deal.
I too would suggest laying down for a nap in the afternoons. It would be great if you could turn the phone down, but I assume if your babysitting that is not an option. I would be upset if someone was watching my kid and I couldn't get a hold of them.
Keep your chin up and hang in there! It will all work itself out in the end.
-Darcy
Corinna
Remember the second jobs are just temporary. If you just know which bill you want to pay off first, then second etc... then you can kind of map it out (when you can quit the second job). Keep up the good work, please don't work too hard. Know your limits and remember to listen to your body. If the kids take a nap during the afternoon, turn off the ringer on the phone and lay down on the couch and take one too. Good luck to you and remember we are here for you.
But, isn't it a great feeling to be getting caught up on your bills? I remember right after I got my job, the sense of relief at not having to worry about which bills were going to go unpaid for yet another month. Yes, they're still calling you now, but soon you'll be paid up and the phone calls will stop. In the meantime, I suggest when they call you tell them, "look, I'm working 80-hour weeks {which you are, considering your mom-duties too) to get this caught up, and I will be caught up by (give them the expected date). In the meantime, you're accomplishing nothing by continuing to call me. Please stop harrassing me!" It may not help, but you'll probably feel better! LOL And remember to hold your head high. You are working your bum off to meet your obligations, and that you should be proud of.
Finally, remember it's temporary. One day, your debt will be paid off enough that your income will no longer be necessary, or at least that you can severely cut back your hours. Things will change. And then you'll come to that glorious day where you can post, "I quit my job! Hallelujah!" and know that your finances will be just fine. Or maybe you'll get to post like I did recently, "I got fired, hallelujah!" LOL In the meantime, when you hit those tough emotional spots, especially in your relationships with your children and husband, remember that it's the stress and that things will get better.
Hugs to you. You'll get through this, just take it one day at a time, hold your head up high, and try to keep a smile on your face.
Blessings,
Heather
Just some hugs and hang in there vibes for you.
Becky
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