The elusive security deposit...
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|Sun, 04-20-2003 - 8:36pm|
We have no credit card debt, but slow pays on car loans, etc., in the past have given me a rotten credit rating. I must find a new place to live SOON, and need to come up not only with a clean utility history, but also the 1-½ month's rent security on the next apartment.
Here's the funny part -- I just had a yard sale yesterday, and made over $700.00!! (DH's tools didn't leave when he did, and I felt justified in selling what I could before we move.) Now, I've told myself I'm going to hang on to this money to go towards the security, but I know my shortcomings (like the way I throw extra money at my kids) very well by now. How can I keep that old pattern of overspending, of "feeling flush" from wrecking my plans to save this money? I have attended a few DA meetings, but I still see patterns of fear rooted deeply in childhood issues. I have always associated giving money with giving love.
After reading some of the posts here, I feel some of you may recognize my fears, and I'm asking that you share some tips for holding onto what I have until it's needed. Already, in only one day, my "Nestegg" is down to $600.00!! It's funny, but it's also tragic, that a windfall can be a curse to folks like me!! Help, please?