So I think I made a mistake
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So I think I made a mistake
| Sat, 06-07-2003 - 10:40am |
Okay I need some more advice here. My bills had been pliing up and last weekend H and I set out to make a plan and we did that. A very workable plan I thought. Well there were still some bills that needed to be paid and because we didn't talk I paid these bills and well he didn't think they needed to be paid. I will be honest and say they were cell phone bills but considering the schedules we keep I think that they do need to be paid. My kids need to be able to get ahold of us. So any advice?? Im tired of H telling me I do it wrong but I know that he doesn't have the ability to do it correctly. LOL
Thanks for listening to my venting!!!!
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Rebecca
Actually, the problem lies not in the fact that the cel phone bills existed, but in the lack of communication when you came across these bills, just after you and DH had sat down together, communicated and agreed on a plan. If I were in the same situation, I would have picked up the phone and called him about it, or delayed the decision until I could reach him and discuss it.
In a not very similar situation, my fiance became irritated with me today when I called him from the Home Depot. We had a plan to buy a remnant of lineolum for the dining room floor, and only $90 left in my checking account. None of the remants available were big enough, so I needed to buy new off the roll - about $175. I knew the money was available in savings, but this was not a part of our plan. So I called him, rudely interrupted his plumbing work, and asked what to do. Communication is the key to our budget and plan to get out of debt, even when it's irritating and inconvenient. He wasn't irritated for long, and we bought new linoleum anyway - but at least I knew we were both on the same page and I hadn't screwed up our carefully made plans.
So yeah, I think you made a mistake, too - but only a small one and one you can easily recover from. Bless you for having the guts to own up to it. Just remember to communicate next time!
:)
Best of luck to you!
Msfit
&nbs
Everyone has their reasons for having and paying for what they have. Someone here was talking about 60 haircuts..I would never spend that much but that doesnt mean they don't have a valid reason for doing so. Another poster spent a huge amount of money on shoes..again something I wouldn't do but she had her reasons and they made sense. You talk about your flooring. Well I could argue the point that if you budgeted 90 dollars and than spent much more you blew your budget however; you had the ability to re-work the plan you had and nothing suffered.
The problem I had was not about the cell phones it was about paying a bill that H thought was less important. The cell phones don't make or break or budget. Its the trips to McDonalds or the trips to KMart for paper towel and than impulse shopping. I realize this and so does H. That is why we worked out a plan.
Thank you all for your advice and comments though. Hearing them and hearing your take on them is always helpful
Hugs
SweetPea
Rebecca J.
p.s. DH and I have cell phones, but not a home phone, so I think it equals out, free long distnace is a beautiful thing!
I am reminded that, in your original post, you did not attempt to justify the cel phones, but my response to you put you in a position to do exactly that. My mistake. But really, the basis of my post wasn't about the cel phones. It was about communication, in reference to how you and your DH had different opinions about what bills were important and which ones were not.
In reworking our plan, my fiance and I always go through the list of where can we cut back on expenses. Cable TV? maybe. Internet service? not on your life. Groceries? I will find a way. Cigarettes? this is a no-brainer - but still we both smoke. Telephone? got a plan working to cut down that expense already (cel phones instead of house phone ;) ;) ;) But always there is an adjustment period, and times when we disagree on which bills are important. Constant communication is the key to making our plan work.
Wish you the best... thanks for giving me a wake-up call.
Msfit
&nbs