Budget-NO! Balance checkbook?-NO!
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|Sat, 06-07-2003 - 12:21pm|
He now makes most of the money and we have separate checking accounts. He spends $500 or more a month at the bar and says that he won't stop or it's his right. Last year, he spent well over three thousand dollars in overdraft charges just on his checking account. He says he will not balance his checkbook. Between May and June this year, for example, he had $425 in overdraft fees. We use Ameridebt and can't even pay that on time. Since I met him, we literally haven't paid all of our bills in a single month. I beg him constantly not to go out and spend $100's at restaurants or bars or vacations. I beg him to write his expenditures down. I beg him to let me have control of the money so the bills get paid.
We just went to eviction court. We have had our electricity turned off for months at a time and he won't won't won't won't do anything to reduce the amount of money he spends. He even got cable and said "well, we'll just have it and not pay for it". When I tried to cancel it, he called up and said I was psycho and not to cancel it.
Are there any tricks I can do to prevent him from spending more since asking and begging haven't worked? Is there a way to have his checkcard declined at his favorite bar or something of that nature? How can I get ahold of enough money to pay basic bills? I will eventually get a divorce, but I can't even afford that. If you're going to suugest AA or something like that, he is forced to go to it already do to his three DUI convictions but he "doesn't have a drinking problem" and AA is "BS".
Any tips and tricks would be appreciated...I don't want psychological analysis of my husband, just ways to get some money from him.