What's the purpose of a support board?
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|Tue, 06-10-2003 - 12:04am|
Whom am I accountable to? Myself, my husband, and the creditors who loaned me money. I'm not accountable to anyone here. I don't need to rationalize my actions to avoid someone telling me I blew it. LOL! If I blew it, no one knows better than I.
But what if some of my fellow DSGers think I am accountable here and that I should strictly be held to it and called on it? Yikes! I'd probably just stop posting to DSG. And do we want to lose out on the opportunity to help so many more people? Heck no!
This is a support board. This is a no judgments zone. Thank heaven for that! I'm safe here. And I need that. I need a safe and secure place to vent about my stumbles and imperfections. I need to know that no matter how alone I feel, I'm not. Do you know how comforting that is? Of course you do! You're here with me.
Does providing emotional support mean we have to pat everyone on the head, say it's not your fault and you don't have to accept responsibility for overspending? No. But there are ways to say it that don't leave people seething and wondering what a cut down is if this is support.
Please remember that not everyone learns with the same curve. Some people need to make mistakes more than once. And no one needs to be scared away from this board. Debt is not a dirty word. Bankruptcy is not a dirty word. Please remember that behind every screen name there's an actual person on the other end. And for every person that actually gets up the nerve to post here (and yes, it takes a lot of courage), there are at least ten who only read. I want those ten posting. They need to experience us and the great things we do. In order for that to happen, the welcome mat has to be out. If you find that there's a debt topic that you just must air, please do so respectfully.
CM Ms Joe Cool
Senior Community Moderator