Please help-afraid to tell husband
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Please help-afraid to tell husband
| Wed, 06-18-2003 - 6:24pm |
I have manged to hide the fact from my husband that I have huge credit card debt. We are refinancing our house which would be a perfect time to get $ to pay it off, but I am afraid he will freak out when he learns this! he is a great guy but much better with $ than me -I'm also afraid that if I don't tell him he may learn from the credit report. Help! What do I say?
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I'm on the other side of that equation--my husband hid debt from me, and then later pretended to be taking care of it and for a year hid from me the fact that he wasn't paying anything on that debt.
I finally found out by checking his credit report.
Let me tell you--it would have gone far easier on him if he had told me *at any point* before I found out for myself.
This is not the end of the world. I don't know how your husband will react, but you can come through this. I was very angry and said a lot of nasty things, and I won't trust dh with money again for a long time, but once the worst had passed, I was glad just to know and to be able to start fixing the mistakes.
He's a wonderful man and a great dh, and I wouldn't trade him for anything. I just wish he had told me the truth along the way!
I hope you are able to gather your courage. You've made a great first step coming here for support. You can do this. Be strong!
Blessings,
Heather
Hugs and positive tell-him-now vibes,
Heather
Good luck to you
Christine
good luck,
It's nice to know that someone is in the exact boat as me. I haven't said the words yet(I am scared out of my mind). How did you tell?