I actually got a check!!!!!

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I actually got a check!!!!!
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Thu, 10-14-2004 - 1:24pm
Okay so I won my lawsuit last week. I was awarded 60K, which would eliminate my medical bills and pay off my lawyer fees and stuff. Some people warned me that he might not have the money, but I figured he did, since he works in NYC and drives, yes drives, a BMW M3, which is like a $65,000 car.

Yesterday I got a check in the mail. Somehow this guy has my home address, which is a little creepy. It was a personal check for 21,223$. There was a letter explaining that he sold stock, and the rest would come after he liquidates some of his other "assets" .I hope that includes his car...hehehe....He also said in the letter that it was sad that we actually had to go to court and that he was sorry for not offering to pay my medical bills sooner, and that he was also sorry for what he did and what he put me through. He wrote..."P.S. Go buy yourself something." The word "yourself" was underlined.

Folded in the letter was a gift card for 500$ to Express. It's cool that he did that...but I think it's a little weird....

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Thu, 10-14-2004 - 1:30pm
Kind of creepy, but it seems the apology was heartfelt. And he's serious about paying it, which is AWESOME!

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Thu, 10-14-2004 - 3:02pm

That does sound a little creepy, but maybe he was truely sorry for how things turned out.


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Thu, 10-14-2004 - 3:07pm
oooo.... I LOVE Express! I remember shopping there, back when I had money! (or had credit anyway!) have fun!

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Thu, 10-14-2004 - 3:47pm
Glad to hear that he is paying up. I would have thought that payment would go through the attorney's office.

Also, enjoy your $500 to express.

MYM

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Registered: 09-22-2003
Thu, 10-14-2004 - 4:46pm
Getting money is always great news, but I'd ask your lawyer about his having your home address and sending cheques to you in that matter. I'm guessing how he would get the funds to you was not discussed during the proceedings? The gift card is nice, maybe he really wants you to get something for yourself and not use the money only for the harm he did to you. It could be genuine remorse. I wonder what made him think it was okay to be the way he was in the past and now he's a reformed man? I would just report it all to your lawyer.
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Thu, 10-14-2004 - 5:09pm
That's what I thought too. I don't know how he got my home address. He seemed sorry in court so I guess maybe he does feel bad about what happened. I left a message for my lawyer to ask him why the check was sent from him directly to me. I haven't heard back yet. I don't think he was supposed to send me a personal check.

For some reason I don't feel guilty at all about accepting the giftcard, like I did with the extra money. I can't wait to use it. I love that store....

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Thu, 10-14-2004 - 7:55pm
I don't want to be a downer, but I'm getting red flags all over the place on this. A personal check? For more than 20k? I think your bank is probably going to raise their eyebrows, for a start, and they're not likely to give you access to that much moula until they are certain the check is good. And if they *do* give you immediate access to some of it--I certainly wouldn't spend it until they assure you the check has cleared his bank. Can you imagine the fallout from checks bouncing and having a 20k overdraft on your account?

I hope I'm way off base and that he really is sorry and whatever, but I'm worried about his motives here. I would wonder if he isn't trying to buy you off with that $500 and enough to cover your med bills, hoping that the feel-good fuzzies will keep you from coming after him for the rest. He probably knows you feel guilty about how much more than the medical bills you were rewarded, and he's hoping you'll just let the rest slide.

Of course he seemed really sorry in court--if he'd come off as a jerk, he would have gotten hit even harder. It sounds to me like he's working his butt off to get out of this as cheaply as he can.

It's all just really fishy and, yes, creepy, to me. He should *not* have your home address. By sending the check there, he has not only bypassed your attorney (and therefore, to his way of thinking, your attorney's trained cynicism), he has also issued a subtle threat. "I know where you live, now be a good little girl and run off and buy yourself something." I'm sorry, but the guy sounds like a real piece of work to me.

I second, third, strongly agree with, the suggestion to take it all to your lawyer. You were awarded 60k to help compensate you for the enormous hassle and pain and suffering and everything else you've been through, and probably to penalize him for being such an sob. He deserves it. Even if he's a changed man. Which, call me cynic, I seriously doubt he is.

I *do* hope this works out well for you. Just don't get to feeling all warm and fuzzy about the jerk. Sounds like he's a real smooth player. Spend the $500, by all means, but don't pretend it comes close to making up for what he put you through.

Best wishes,

Heather

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Fri, 10-15-2004 - 11:25am
I talked to my lawyer. He was NOT supposed to send me the check. He was supposed to send it to the attorney's office and they were supposed to send me a check, all in one chunk, minus their fees of course...or something like that. I'm going to drop the check off at my attorney's office on Monday. I still have no idea where he got my address.

As for feeling warm and fuzzy about this guy, I don't. I still think he's a total slimeball for doing what he did. That's not the first time him and his roomates did something like that. A few weeks before a friend of my roomate somehow managed to sleep with two of our neighbors in one night (I was unaware of this incident). She learned this a couple weeks later when her memory came back, and figured she was just really drunk that night. She only figured it out after what had happened to me. She decided to not press charges or anything, and wouldn't even testify during the criminal trial..dumb B?%@#*....(I don't talk to ANY of my roomates from that summer anymore)

The check wouldn't have been enough to cover all of the medical bills anyway. I didn't have any idea what to do with it until I talked to my lawyer. I figure my bank wouldn't deposit it.

I kinda think this guy is just glad I didn't die. He'd be in a lot more trouble if I did. Or maybe the giftcard was a genuine thank you for not robbing him blind. I just don't believe in suing for excessive amounts of money. I am totally fine. I graduated school on time, only lost about 12 days of work (just bartending). The only thing I was really upset about was the medical bills. Maybe I didn't react to this situation the right way. I 'm not as traumatized as I people say I should be. I wasn't raped. I didn't die or have brain damage. I just woke up a little confused and in a heaping pile of debt...hence the reason I am on this board....



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Fri, 10-15-2004 - 11:59am
I think you have a great attitude about this, and I admire your convictions and your maturity.

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Fri, 10-15-2004 - 12:36pm
Thank you everyone for you opinions and support about this situation. Hopefully everything will straightened out soon, and I'll be a little closer to being out of debt.....

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