i'm going to be bald soon

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Registered: 09-21-2004
i'm going to be bald soon
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Fri, 10-22-2004 - 11:23pm
I got one of dh's cc bills today and he went over his limit. He only used it once (that was too much btw lol) and he spent $25 on chinese. How does that happen? And the worst part is, it was just for himself. I highly doubt that, I think he bought his roommate some too. GRRRR. It took everything I had not to blow up at him on the phone when he called. I was in such a bad mood today before I even recieved that. Last night I just went off about money (not at him was just releasing frustrations and anger) and told him this sucks and I can't take much more of this. I didn't have a good day and am reaching the end of my rope. There has to be a light at the end of the tunnel; I'm just not seeing it.

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Sat, 10-23-2004 - 8:43am

Hi There - So sorry to hear that!

All my best,
Danni

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Sat, 10-23-2004 - 3:05pm

Hugs Becky,


I know how you feel.


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Sat, 10-23-2004 - 6:54pm
If he only used it once how did he go over his limit? I don't think you should get too mad at him just for getting some chinese food. He's going to feel like he can't ever do anything.
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Sat, 10-23-2004 - 8:37pm
Yes my dh would be willing to leave his cc at home. When I confiscate them and not give them back like I have done before. He says he likes carrying them cause it makes his wallet look full. *rolls eyes*

I asked him to cut his providian and he said he would. Lets see if he does.
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Sat, 10-23-2004 - 8:41pm
I feel the same way. I hate living paycheck to paycheck and it would honestly not take that long to get out of this hole and to the point where we wouldn't have to be doing this, but he just won't work with me. Like today, he said he needed PT shorts. Ok I asked him to not use the star card. To wait ONE week until he got paid. Well he said he needed to buy one pair because he was told to but I told him the other pair could have waited a week. Grrr I'm so tired of him using cc's like cash.
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Sat, 10-23-2004 - 8:47pm
Because it was already maxed and he used it once and it pushed it over its limit. He should feel like he can't do anything. Its mostly his fault that we have maxed out cc debt. He has 3 cc. If he wants to be an adult,he should act like one. He's acting like a kid. I don't see why he should get away with compromising OUR financial future. He thinks cc are gods gift to not having cash. He goes behind my back to get them. I don't think I should give him a break. He doesn't deserve it. I do not ever get anything. No clothes, nothing for myself or my kids, I can't even afford to rent a movie. Everytime I turn around he is spending too much money or using a cc that is running up the min payment. When do I get to enjoy some money? I'm busy trying to clean up his mess and he keeps having fun. I think he is the one that needs to give me a break.
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Sat, 10-23-2004 - 8:55pm
Ooooh, I thought he literally only used it once... didn't know you were already maxed :(

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Sat, 10-23-2004 - 9:05pm
Its okay *laughs* Its just frustrating kwim? :)
Avatar for cherfer
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Sat, 10-23-2004 - 9:23pm
I can understand, but than again I'm not married yet so I can only guess at your frustration!!!
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Sun, 10-24-2004 - 12:30am

I know what you mean.


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