Well, I have posted here a few time, so I am hoping some of you remember my situation. My name is kelly and I am 27 year old mother and wife. Dh and I have a 2 year old, Roslyn who is the absolute light of my life. I work full time, mostly from home, as a bookkeeper. DH and I are about $16,000 worth of debt, not including 2 student loans in forebearance and a car loan.(I am trying to focus on unsecured debt right now, and the student loans aren't due for a long while). Dh and I have both worked for the same local company for about 5 years. It is a small family oriented business and very close knit. Dh recently found a job doing what he absolutley loves, naval and marine engineering. (he hasn't even finished his degree yet, this is a great opportunity for him). We worked both jobs for awhile and was recently offered to go full time as an engineer. Great, you say, right? not really... I totally encouraged him, because this is a great step up for him, but it also causes tons of problems. You see, we rent our house from his previous(my) employer. And the guy is pissed that dh has left. (he gave notice) and now he says he thinks he wants us to move out of the rental house. He said he is still thinking about it, but I really think we are going to be out after christmas. We have no lease, it was just kind of an agreement. I still work there and hope that helps sway his decision, but I don't really work for this guy, I am in a different dept. So, we have no where to go, and will most likely have to move in with my parents if we get kicked out. Our ultimate goal was to pay off debt and buy a house in a year or two, I do not want to sign a lease for an apartment or house we don't want right now.
So, along with all that, we are dealing with a significant pay decrease. Hubby used to get a $400 commission check and now that is no longer coming in. We have also lost the extra money he was bringing by working 2 jobs. So we are looking at a really big pay decrease. We are trying so hard to change our habits. We are not eating out, we used to constantly. We are not buying unneccessary things. I am cooking from scratch. We are tying but we do slip up. (this week, I bought a hardback book for $23 and he bought a portfolio for work for $25. ) I am selling things on ebay and trying to make extra money.
I dont know why I am posting this, I'm just so scared and frustrated. Maybe moving in with my family would be better for us, but I don't want to lost this house. I love it! Its so quiet and in the country and my daughter has her own room and our dog has room to run and we are independent. I don't want to llive with my parents. I love them, but I don't want to lose the priviledge of cooking for my family and having quiet nights with my husband and daughter. This just sucks.
P.S. - if moving in with your parents is the temporary solution, I would take it. At least you know it's temporary. I'm sorry, but something doesn't sit right with me in your situation, I may be wrong, but you have options. Pleae take care and God Bless!
kel
Hugs Kel.
Hi Kel,
I know I already responded to your post, but I had to respond to your comment about traumatizing your 2 1/2 yo dd.
As for my daughter, well I guess I am just worried about taking away her space.. do you know what I mean? We would be living out of one bedroom at my parents house. My parents said they would put things in storage to make room for her toys in the living room, but its not quite the same. She enjoys her room. She goes in there with the dog and just plays and plays. I don't want her to lose that freedom and "alone time". I think I am also thinking about MY alone time! I will have none!!
kel
-who loves this board so much!
Hey Kel - don't get ahead of yourself!
All my best,
Danni
When my husband and I came back home to NY from CA (I was 5 months pregnant w/my twins), we moved in w/my parents. We put our stuff in storage and lived in a bedroom. When my twins were born (two months later). We were crammed in the same bedroom. It helped for a while, financially but believe me..not emotionally. Few months later, we found a three bedroom apartment.
My parents own a two family house. I am not sure about the law in your state. However, in my state (NY), if you don't have a lease, the owner has to give u a 30 day notice to vacant the apartment.
Good luck to you. Hang in there. Try to think that it will be temporarily.
P.S. My twins (boy/girl) will be three years old next month. They share a bedroom. My husband uses the third bedroom as a home office. The apartment is getting small for us. I understand you wanting a bedroom for your DD. We are finally able to buy our own home. In fact, we are building a new one.
MYM
I agree with everyone else!!
Becky
CL of 4th, 5th & 6th grade Scoliosis