Hiding debt -- something to think about

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Registered: 05-12-2003
Hiding debt -- something to think about
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Sat, 11-20-2004 - 4:29pm

I'll start this off by saying that I understand everyone's position is unique and I'm not being judgmental, but here's something to think about if you're hiding debt from someone.

We can probably all agree that one of the worst things about being in serious debt is the constant anxiety and stress inherent in the situation. If you are hiding it from someone, you also have anxiety from an additional source--worrying that this person will find out.

We need to remember to take care of our health as we work on debt reduction, and if you can reduce or eliminate a source of anxiety, that can only be a positive thing.

Weigh whether avoiding the short-term unpleasantness of coming clean is really worth the long-term anxiety, sense of isolation, and negative effects on your health that come from keeping the secret.

Each person will come to his or her own decision on this one.

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Wed, 11-24-2004 - 12:30pm
I agree completely with this. For a long time I didn't tell my boyfriend where I was at financially speaking and one week I told him we were eating from the food in the freezer and the pantry, no grocery store for a week. He looked at me kind of funny, but said ok. After a really boring and trying week for us, we made it through, but it resulted in a big discussion in which I spilled everything about my finances and why I felt the need to draw in the purse strings for a week. I feel so much better and it has helped our relationship SO much, I can't believe it. I wish I would have talked to him sooner about all this!!

~leanne

deciding to be happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect, but that you had decided to look beyond the imp