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Not in the Christmas mood?
| Fri, 11-26-2004 - 5:15pm |
I am wondering if there are others out there, like me, who are just not in the mood for Christmas this year? If so, what are you doing to try to get in the mood? This has been a very rough year for me on so many different levels...yesterday was sad for me because it was the first Thanksgiving since my Mom passed away, and I used to spend all day helping her cook..it was our favorite holiday. But with Christmas, I am just thinking it is more money to spend...except for buying for our kids and our niece and nephew, it just isn't fun anymore. I just don't feel like doing anything. Worse is that we just moved and I haven't tried to find a church yet... Anyhow, just wondering if I am alone in feeling this way...

I'd say you are far from alone in your feelings. I just can't seem to "get into" the holidays this year. DH and I are about to start decorating the house and I am dreading it, especially because DH has been in a bad mood all day.
I too see it as just more money spent. So far I have gotten six gifts for my two kids (three each) and only spent $40, but I still have the biggie from Santa. BTW, Santa has so many kids to buy for this year, he can only afford one for each child.
I have also bought for our 2 year old nephew and our 5 month old neice. Our older neices and nephews get $20 each for a total of $80. Now all I have to do is buy for our parents (a total of three presents). Don't know how much there. DH may get some little something but he has already gotten a lot.
To me, the holiday has become who can give the biggest and best and I want it to go back to what you can do for others to make their day brighter.
Keep your chin up and p&pt to you.
Good luck,
Kellie
I'm just a bit bored with Christmas right now. I need change....and I'd just like to be able to skip a holiday every once in a while.
This year money is tight, and I need energy to be focused on my job a few other things going on. I just feel like I don't have the time for it this year.
I am going to try to keep it easy for myself this year.
I know how hard it is to miss a parent during the holidays, but life keeps happening which is a good thing, and they would want to see us happy. We'll just keep hanging in there.
When I left work Wednesday, the tree was already up in the lobby, and I felt like it was just holiday time too soon...................well, too soon for me.
We will find that moment of the holiday that is just for us.
Littlesbigs
I'm not in the mood either but I think part of that is the weather here, it's just so dreary out and it always compounds the money troubles to me.
Just general over all UGH...I'm hoping once it gets closer and more holiday things start happening, it will be better (we haven't decorated yet or anything)....but on the other hand then everything will be such a whirlwind for us, that it will be here quickly & done with quickly.
Luckily, I have very few people to buy for other than my kids.
Becky
CL of 4th, 5th & 6th grade Scoliosis
Hi Heather,
I've so been where you are. For several years after my mom died, the holidays became a period of the year just to get through. It does get better with time though. My one piece of advice would be that if you're not really feeling into the season, don't force it. The first year after my mom died, my dad, sister, and I tried to recreate the family holidays by doing all of the things we used to do with her, and it was a huge disaster. The family dynamic changes when one piece of the puzzle is gone, and it takes a while for everything to settle out.
On a more general note, if you haven't already read it, I would highly recommend the book Motherless Daughters by Hope Edelman. Its focus is mainly on girls and women who lost their moms in their early 20s or younger, but I found it extremely helpful in getting through the first couple of years after my mom died when I was 25 (9 years ago). I still go back and re-read sections sometimes when I'm missing her and feeling sad.
I'm so sorry for your loss, and my heart really goes out to you. Remember to take care of yourself.
Wendy
"Live Life with Pssion"