OT....A little angry (Long)

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OT....A little angry (Long)
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Mon, 12-27-2004 - 8:52pm

My husband's best friend works for the same company. This morning. My husband calls me from work. He tells me that his best friend told him that he should have not gotten him anything for christmas, if he was going to get him something from the 99 cent store. Can you believe how ungrateful some people are. This is his best friend. He knows we are tight financially. He told my husband that he didn't expect that from us. Also that he has plenty of shaving stuff. He was laughing at my husband's face.

I had bought him shaving cream, a pack of razors, after-shave gel and lotion. I put them in a wicker basket and wrapped it in cellophane wrap and tied it with a christmas ribbon. For his wife, I bought her a scented body wash and lotion, ramie bath sponge and mitten. I also wrapped it in cellophane wrap and tied it with a christmas ribbon. I placed each gift in a separate christmas gift bag. Yes...I did get it from the 99 cent store. However, I always thought that in terms of gift giving, it's the thought that counts. My husband felt bad. I just feel angry. The guy is a real jerk.

He also told my husband that his sister-in-law (his wife's sister) gave him a tire gauge key chain. Obviously, he didn't appreciate that either. A few days before christmas, he was telling my husband that he spent $1,000 in christmas gifts.

Now....am i in the wrong here? My husband is telling me, i should have gotten him a sweater or something. Take note..that i had told my husband what i was going to buy for them before i bought it.

Boy...i'm so angry at his best friend. For his birthday, my husband takes him out to lunch and buys him a gift (shirts). For his wedding, my husband was the best man. He supposedly was going to give my husband a bracelet as a present for being his best man. Nothing!!!! My husband didn't care about that.

Sorry to rant so much, but i'm pissed. Thanks for reading.

MYM

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Tue, 12-28-2004 - 10:33am

Thank you to all. You gals have been so supported.

I would love to scratch them off our list, however, i know my husband would not want that. However, i do plan on giving them next christmas a joint gift. Perhaps some inexpensive bath towels or slippers.

I love the idea of giving to charity in their name. OH!!!!I'm waiting for him to come over one day and mention that gift. I have something for him.

MYM

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Tue, 12-28-2004 - 10:38am
Next time get him a book on Morals since he lost his!!! How disrespectful!
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Tue, 12-28-2004 - 10:40am

I would be afraid of that. My husband will pay too much money for the gift. I wouldn't trust him with that. An example, my husband asked me what i wanted for christmas. I told him i wanted to be debt-free. He goes out and buys me a Movado watch. He spends over $200 for it. I am grateful for it. I didn't tell him, I would have been ok with a pair of jeans and shirt. I am a SAHM. I don't go out much. Therefore, I really don't have use for such an expensive watch. I would wear it for a special occasion. Perhaps for New Year's Eve. Although, we are staying home. LOL!

Thanks for the support.

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Tue, 12-28-2004 - 10:44am

MYM,


My blood is boiling just reading your post - what a jerk!!

 

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Tue, 12-28-2004 - 10:50am
That is just typical of men. You tell them one thing and they do another. Would your husband be able to work in a spending limit - I guess not. The joint gift sounds good, but I like the charity idea. I just hate it when people judge people due to how much money spent. I'm sure your husband thought he was making you feel special, what he doesn't see is that the money is coming out of the same pot. From the way his friend sounds, seems like your husband wants to say he got this expensive watch for his wife, not clothes. Men don't like to admit to financial problems, I think they view it as part of their masculinity.
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Tue, 12-28-2004 - 10:53am

I think you hit the nail on the head!

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Tue, 12-28-2004 - 5:40pm

I love the suggestion to get him a book--how about a copy of Miss Manners? You can wrap it up pretty and present it while smiling sweetly, and say, "Since you couldn't use our first gift, we thought you might like this one instead" or, "Since you already have plenty of shaving things, we thought you might like this instead."

:) I love revenge.

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Tue, 12-28-2004 - 6:24pm

Heather,
That's a good idea. LOL

MYM

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Wed, 12-29-2004 - 8:05am


Just curious, since your DH's best friend doesn't sound like such a good friend after all....what did he give to your DH for Christmas? Was it a well thought out, personal, gift such as the one you gave to them?

As for the tire gauge gift he received, I think that's also a great gift. Speaking as someone who has a slow leak in one of her tires, my tire gauge is a blessing for me. I have to have mine with me at all times. I carry it right in my purse.

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Wed, 12-29-2004 - 11:20am

They gave us a joint gift. Bed sheets that are too small. Don't care for the pattern either. However, i do appreciate it. For the kids, a shirt for my son and a nightgown for my daughter.

He's just a jerk. I really don't care much for him nor his wife at this point.

MYM

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