I have also wondered why people are so embarrassed about their money woes...Money never was discussed in my home growing up. My mom (grew up dirt poor) to this day behaves as if she's still poor but I found out after my dad passed away a few years ago that she has a huge net worth! so I know some of my attitudes are from my "family of origin". I, too, do not wish to be judged as irresponsible or stupid due to my lack of money, but deep down, I know my problem stems for the most part from divorce, so I try not to make my lack of $$ cause a lack of self-esteem.
VERY interesting question. My answer, me, my attorney, my bank, my mom, and ya'll.
Well, that's exactly why I came here - to have a place to tell my story.
I felt so ashamed and guilty for getting into debt and didn't want to tell even my closest friends (even though one of them had already gone through bankruptcy). I guess I feel like my situation is so much worse than theirs, that they'd balk at what I'm paying, even in interest.
I really can't tell my parents, either. They are the "ultra-saver" types and are openly proud that they have never paid interest on a credit card. They would *die* if they knew how much I owe. I have recently shared with my sis who is closest to me. She is the only one (other than you, dear reader) who knows about the magnitude of my debt.
So thank you for giving me a place to safely share. It makes a big difference to come clean (with self and others).
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I have also wondered why people are so embarrassed about their money woes...Money never was discussed in my home growing up. My mom (grew up dirt poor) to this day behaves as if she's still poor but I found out after my dad passed away a few years ago that she has a huge net worth! so I know some of my attitudes are from my "family of origin". I, too, do not wish to be judged as irresponsible or stupid due to my lack of money, but deep down, I know my problem stems for the most part from divorce, so I try not to make my lack of $$ cause a lack of self-esteem.
VERY interesting question. My answer, me, my attorney, my bank, my mom, and ya'll.
Well, that's exactly why I came here - to have a place to tell my story.
I felt so ashamed and guilty for getting into debt and didn't want to tell even my closest friends (even though one of them had already gone through bankruptcy). I guess I feel like my situation is so much worse than theirs, that they'd balk at what I'm paying, even in interest.
I really can't tell my parents, either. They are the "ultra-saver" types and are openly proud that they have never paid interest on a credit card. They would *die* if they knew how much I owe. I have recently shared with my sis who is closest to me. She is the only one (other than you, dear reader) who knows about the magnitude of my debt.
So thank you for giving me a place to safely share. It makes a big difference to come clean (with self and others).
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