Hate this so much!!
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Hate this so much!!
| Fri, 07-08-2005 - 9:03pm |
I know there is another board for this issue, but I'm here just the same. I just get so frustrated sometimes with finances. My ex is $2000 in arrears in child support, and I am a single mom, and I basically pay for everything for the kids. Even when my ex pays child support, it isn't very much, it covers maybe school lunches at best. He hasn't made a payment in over a month now either because he changed jobs and it takes the beauracrats at the child support office forever to get another garnishment in the works. I am just so tired of it. Even when we were together I paid for everything. Birthday parties, X-mas gifts (even for HIS family) all the holidays. I took out student loans to put myself through school and we lived off that money when he wasn't working and we weren't able to make it on my income alone. So now, I have massive student loan debt. We lived off credit cards when I was in school, of course they were in my name, so I had all the debt, and he got to come along for the ride. I filed for bankruptcy because I had about $25,000 in credit card debt and medical bills, that I couldn't afford to pay. I am slowing re-establishing my credit, and have managed to save money in a CD, a savings account, and I have $4500 in a retirement account. WAY more assets than when I was with him. Which I am proud about. I never would have been able to do that if I was still with him and basically supporting him. So the child support thing really shouldn't suprise me any because this is his signature behavior. I know I can't change him and that I am doing much better now, than I would've been if I had stayed with him, but it is just frustrating. I feel like their is only so much that I can DO for my kids. I pay for their food, clothes, housing, medical and dental care, vacations, extra cirricular activities, school expenses, child care, birthday parties, everthing! I am sick of him being let off the hook. I have over $60,000 in student loan debt, $1,500 in credit card debt, $1,400 in nursing loans, $2,600 for a personal loan, $15,000 mobile home loan. I feel like this is all my life will be about is pay pay pay. I would feel better if he would at least pay off his arrears, then I could pay off my credit card debt with that or my nursing loan. I am just frustrated by all of this. Thanks for the vent and for listening!

All my best,
Danni
Just wanted to say you sound like a great mom, and very responsible- hey you got your degreee, he can't take that from you. And you have started the cd and retirement, you should be proud. Just keep being a great mom and don't focus on the debt...... it will get better, and it sounds like you are much better off already not being with him .
Good luck
Shannon
Hang in there. Take it day by day.
MYM