Major stress

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Major stress
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Wed, 08-10-2005 - 5:53pm

Hubby and I have lots of debt...student loans, medical bills, etc. He works a "temp" job...but he's been there for over a year, and this company hires on permanently about about 18 months of being a "temp". It doesn't very well. I actually make more money than him... and our $3,500/month income is about 60% me/40% him.

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Registered: 08-28-2004
In reply to: barrys_wife
Fri, 08-12-2005 - 10:38am

I was responding in a way that I thought the poster was asking for. I wonder if gentle proddings from anonymous posters would get through to someone who said she "can't" leave her job and needed somebody to "slap sense" into her. She wasn't even listening to her own mother's advice, but deep down she clearly knew what she had to do.

If my kick in the butt was too forceful, I apologize. I certainly didn't respond just to be cruel, but to offer tough love. Maybe she won't snap out of it . . . I don't know. But I hope someone's response, even if not mine, will help. That's why we're here, right?

It's like the serenity prayer -- we need the courage to change what we can, and this is a situation she can change. It's not a situation she has to accept as it is, although she is currently choosing to do so and suffering the consequences. Come on Barry's Wife, go out there and kick some butt! Gandhi said you must be the change you want to see in the world. Well that starts with your own life. Be the change your life needs.

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Registered: 02-14-2004
In reply to: barrys_wife
Fri, 08-12-2005 - 3:07pm
I agree with previous posters, its time to get another job and forget about loyalty. Bills are bills and it isn't worth it. And honestly, LA is a ridiculously expensive place to live. $3500 a month is great money where I live (south Texas) where you can still buy a home for $70,000. I make a similar salary and can even afford to send my kids to private school down here (and that's with A LOT of debt still hanging around). So, if you want a better standard of living, you may need to check out other areas of the country.

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