I just want to give up!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
I just want to give up!
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Wed, 09-14-2005 - 5:28pm

I can't decide if I should throw something or cry.

Sarah

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Registered: 10-07-2003
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 10:20pm

I'm feel for you...I really do. I've been through it all, we got through it...and now were in it again. It's always about a long illness or lack of work for us. We maybe short on bucks but were long on love!! But that's besides the point....LOL
This is what we did because we HAD to...there was no other choice. You may not want to hear this but here goes. By the way, we will be re-peating it all again this Holliday season. You need to inform your families there will not be any Holiday dinners at your house this year. Let them know how sorry you are but you are very close to loosing everything. You will need to let another family member take that burden this year. Could they? Would they? I hope so in this circumstance. If they will do this, tell them you will be more than happy to bring a dish to pass but that is all you can afford. Also you will have to skip the gift exchanges also for family just for this year. As far as your family goes. You & your husband can do without a monitary gift to each other. Instead, think about what Christmas & Thanksgiving are really all about. Write a heartfelt loveletter or poem to each other as your gifts to each other. If you have to eat low budget meals for the Hollidays then do it. We had hamburger patties w/a veggie on Christmas last year. You may also only be able to select only 1 gift per child. If they are old enough to understand, ask for their patience & help through this. Think of small things to do for them that are low cost (sorry, can't think of anything right now). I'm sure some of these wonderful people here at IVILLAGE could help with some ideas.

All I'm trying to say is it's a real drag going through the hollidays with no money. We cut everything out & were glad we did....namely because we are all together & we still have our home. You have to do everything in your power to decrease the amount going out. All we do is work (40 hrs/wk each or more for both of us)& pay bills....no vacation, no fun events, ect. But we know God has a plan for us, & it's not this for the rest of our lives! So, try & be patient & put your burden in God's hands. Things will get better!

~*Roses*~

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Fri, 09-16-2005 - 11:22am

Yeah, I've done the math.

Sarah
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Registered: 10-07-2003
Fri, 09-16-2005 - 7:27pm

I'm very sorry Sarah for posting idea's on how to get through your really tough times. I really thought you were looking for ideas from us to help, as well as for you to vent. We all need to vent at times. Believe me - your original post was way more than desperate. I appreciate your comment..."Yah, I've done the math"....

10 other posters wrote in with all kinds of suggestions to your FRANTIC PLEA for help...I didn't see any sarcasm until your last post #13.

I also didn't say anything about the job thing...you had covered that, & I understood why that couldn't change.

All I was doing was trying to help you....I'm sorry.
It will all work out for you, take care.

~*Roses*~

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