Divorce $$$ ... buying him out ....

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Divorce $$$ ... buying him out ....
8
Sun, 09-18-2005 - 1:01pm

Hi! Well, I am about to be divorced (dont say your sorry, lol, believe me, its my choice & i should have done it YEARS ago) & am giong to have to buy my STBX out of our house. Errrr. His income over the past 7 years, by CHOICE, b/c he basically refused to work full-time, or sometimes at all, was 24% of what we made as a couple. That is based on those yearly SS income profiles so it is very accurate.


He is the scoop.

Photobucket

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Sun, 09-18-2005 - 1:10pm

One more thing ... as IF i didnt write ENOUGH already! lol

Photobucket

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-19-2004
Sun, 09-18-2005 - 2:24pm

Hi Rlch.

Photobucket

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2004
Sun, 09-18-2005 - 5:52pm
Wow! Please don't be offended by this, I don't mean it as a personal attack on you AT ALL, I am just thinking aloud here, but reading your post makes me feel very thankful, that I didn't marry my ex, because he would have been the same way that your ex is being and everything would still be unsettled with us! He left with his gf, took all the money we had, left me with all the bills, and the gruling task of selling our home, plus I gave him $3500 over a period of 4 months. Everything I have now I accumulated after we broke up. I really want to lend my support to you, you don't deserve to be financially strapped because of this jerk, but you sound very resourceful, and you are strong! Stronger than I would be! I like the idea of you starting at 24/76; you put more money into the house, contributed a majority of the income and used part of YOUR inhertance toward the house; I wouldn't back down on that point! It would be great if you could get a 70/30 split in your favor; based on everything you have told me, I don't see how they possibly think he deserves more than that! Just my opinion! I know your focus is on getting everything settled right now, but maybe at some point you should consider using some of the money to get rid of your car payment, that would free up $300 a month. That's just a suggestion; at least you wouldn't have that bill every month. As for the rest, I think you should stand firm on the 70/30 split based on his history. Good luck to you Rebecca, fight for what is fair to you and your daughter and for what you deserve. I wish you ALL the best.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Sun, 09-18-2005 - 6:49pm

Man! You are everywhere! lol

Photobucket

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-19-2004
Sun, 09-18-2005 - 7:08pm

Yes, have you seen my list of favorite boards in my profile?

Photobucket

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Sun, 09-18-2005 - 7:19pm

Thanks so much Scorned. lol, i got nervous reading your 1st line ... i got flamed by one particluar unknown poster last week on another board, totally out of the blue & bizzare, really rude & judgemental, downright mean,

Photobucket

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Sun, 09-18-2005 - 7:24pm
Just sent it to you Jennie. Thanks!

Photobucket

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2004
Sun, 09-18-2005 - 8:10pm
I'm SOOOOO sorry for you. I didn't mean to scare you and I am sorry that you encountered someone here who was unsupportive. I would never criticize the way you are handling things. You are doing great, and I really admire your strength and the integrity that you show in dealing with him! Also, it's so unfair to go after your retirement! That is for YOUR future not his! You worked hard to build that up and just because he CHOSE not to work, he is entitled to HALF?? That sucks so bad! What kind of a time frame are you thinking as far as how much longer this will go on? I bet you will be glad when this is all over with! I'm sure your getting tired of fighting with him about all this. I hope your attorney knocks him down a few notches. I hope you can have closure to this soon so you can get on with your life and be happy! Take care. Thoughts and prayers to you always!!