Jumping out the window---almost

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Registered: 09-22-1999
Jumping out the window---almost
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Sat, 09-24-2005 - 3:03pm

Where I work, they will ask about your workload by asking you if you feel like jumping out the window yet....I recently discovered that the window in the copy room DOES open(we are 7 stories up) .... and I let people know.......ok, maybe that was awful of me, but.........

Well, in the last week my entire job CHANGED, and I had to go around asking a million questions about it....they sort of said "oh, you thought you were doing 10% of the project, but now you have to 100% and train people in a remote location, too." TOO MUCH STRESS..............I thought it was just me, but t is now everyone else , too, and it was done in a sneaky way......NOT GOOD.

On top of this, I had health problems this week, a lot of bad news, and now I have people hounding me for money. Not bills, but family members. I'm not happy about that. They didn't pay their bills, and now they want my money so they can....one of them asked me to buy them food because they had to pay a doctor bill or else there would be late fees, so they spent every nickel they had to pay the bill and left themselves nothing and they had no food in the house to tide themselves over until the next paycheck in 10 days. I know I have to take care of myself first and try to get them to take care of themselves, but these are family members who are nearby and can't be ignored, and will NOT take my advice. They feel advice is actualy an insult. I am afraid of setting a precident.....
and I am not 100% convinced they spent all their paycheck on one doctor bill......

I am just hanging inthere with my bills. I am not making much progress, but I am going to keep thinking of ways to NOT SPEND MORE. The price of gas is bothering me, the rent is going up $50, food is goingup, and I may have to spend money on a parking garage instead of taking the bus because my job may require me to spend extra time there,a nd the bus stops running at 5:30PM.

Tonight I am "running away" by watching videos from the library, reading, doing craft projects,and TAKING CARE OF MYSELF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am not going to let stress increase my debt load. I am NOT shopping. no no no no

Thank you for "listening" to me vent!!!

Littlesbigs

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Sat, 09-24-2005 - 3:32pm

I know what you mean about work. At my job, it doesn't seem to matter how much we do, our boss is always asking, "well, those numbers could have been higher...why weren't they?" or "That special section looked ok, but we really should have..." blah, blah, blah. They are NEVER satisfied. My sector was even up 444% last quarter. That didn't make one bit of difference. It's not always this way, but lately it has been ridiculous! I completely feel your frustration.

This board is a great place to come vent. I know I have to quite often. I'm sorry things are going so rough for you, but good for you for taking a night for yourself! That's what we all need to get away from the chaos every now and then and just relax. I hope your health is improving!

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Registered: 09-22-1999
Sat, 09-24-2005 - 4:43pm

Hi, Angel!

My health is getting better, thank you!, but still waiting to heal from a recent procedure, and waiting for test results. I just do not want work to ruin my health. Not worth it! Right now my job is more of a physical endurance test than anything else.

I am home and doing personal business...going to just think about myself until Monday morning. I am relaxing....want to go for a walk...tomorrow a short trip to the gym...that will be the best thing!

Best wishes, Littlesbigs

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Registered: 12-05-2004
Sun, 09-25-2005 - 1:54pm


We had a family member (my brother-in-law) that would call and say he was short on funds, etc, and tell us he was 2 months behind on house payments and about to be foreclosed on, and not wanting his kids to lose their home, we'd try to help him out. Later, when we found out he was drinking his money away and spending it willy-nilly on non-neccessary items, we decided to put an end to it. The next time he called and asked for money, Dh said, "Oh Man, I was just about to call you. I was hoping you could help us out a bit since we're a little short this month ourselves." We had to do this a few times before the calls for help stopped. If he had been genuinely in financial trouble, we'd have helped, but to just go out and party the money away and then ask us to support his family....we couldn't let that continue. :-D

Pat :-D