ENOUGH.. Update
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| Tue, 10-18-2005 - 12:39pm |
First of all I would like to thank all you ladies who gave support and advice. It really helps put all things in perspective. My sister will listen to me vent but she doesn't understand, she is 18 and is a senior in high school.
So last night after my DS was sleeping in bed. I told DH we needed to talk. I basically broke down crying, I told him I was so stressed about money and bills, and how I was scrimping and saving every extra dollar I had to help pay bills and payoff debts. He just looked at me funny. (I have never broke down before in front of him like I did last night) He told me he understood and we had a really great discussion. I explained that I was tired of living paycheck to paycheck. I wanted a better life for all of us. I wanted a house. After we had a long discussion about money and how we were going to get to the goals that we have set for our family, I can not tell you how much better I feel. I feel like a weight has been lifted off of me. It helps to get things about money out in the open.
Oh, DH brown bagged it today too. I was so proud even though I made his lunch.
I just want to thank all of you for your advice and support. It helps to know that I am not alone in this fight with debt and money.

I am so glad to see that you sat down and talked about this. It is a good feeling when you accomplish something, especially when your "message" gets through! I know my DH would question me when I spend $160+ at the grocery store, and when I explain that we are now a family of 5 and that milk alone for the weeks runs us about $12, he started realizing that I wasn't buying gourmet dinners!
Good luck to you both! I know that we feel better when we are a united front rather than a divided one.
Kathy
I am so happy that you talked this out with your husband. I'm glad you let out the stress and frustration too. Hopefully your tears showed him just how hurt you really were by his actions. If he starts to slip on his attempt to be more frugal, give him a loving reminder. We've all slipped from time to time. ;-D
I think you both handled this wonderfully. :-D
Pat
I am so pleased that your husband has come onboard with you. I too have been there done that with my DH. It is soooo much easier now when we are open with each other and can talk about money, without it being a fight. I hope that you will continue to find dtratagies to communicate with each other about money. It is such a good feeling when you are both moving in the same direction.