Cleaning up a mess
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Cleaning up a mess
| Fri, 10-28-2005 - 10:14am |
Tomorrow we leave to visit my Dad. I don't know exactly what kind of mess we will be walking into. He hasn't been well taken care of, since my Mom passed away. I know that my brother who lives there does the bare minimum. Property taxes have not been paid...in years. nobody knows even how much they are, so we will go to the county treasures office and find out what the damage is while we are out there.
I am trying to envision how life will be when we move in with my Dad next summer. It is a necessity...he shouldn't be living the way he is, and like I said, my brother, who is only 23, does the bare minimum by making sure that there are groceries in the house. I wonder how much my dad and my kids, who can be noisy at times, will get along. I wonder if my stress level will go down or if I will explode. On my end, something has to give. This week, I got 10 hours of sleep total in four days. I am spread way to thin, between my dauhgters therapy, homeschooling my oldest and working full time...third shift. It wasn't so bad when my youngest was going to kindergarten full time, but now that her therapy is back in full swing, I have to pick her up from school in the middle of the scchool day three days per week for therapy. that is when I slept before.
My house is a mess. My husband and I are not getting along these days...I resent the fact that he has so much time to sit on his butt and watch tv, or play computer games when he is home and could be doing more to help me out. I wonder if once our money situation improves and I don't have to do quite so much, if things will get better for us. I have lost five pounds this month...that is not good. I'm down to 92 pounds, where my normal body weight should be 105, based on my size.
I am so happy that I am off for eight more days. We will be gone from tomorrow until Wednesday night late. Then I'll have a few days to recover before going back to work.
Our credit card balances did not budge this month, which is disappoionting, but I did pay off my medical bills, finally. We ended up having to pay a bit out of pocket to get things for our daughters therapy program to get it up and running again.
I have contemplated going to my doctor and getting on antidepressants, to take some of the edge off. I probably should have done it a long time ago.
Anyhow, that is where I am at right now. Cautiously optimistic about where the next year will take us, and scared too, of all the changes.... Heather
I am trying to envision how life will be when we move in with my Dad next summer. It is a necessity...he shouldn't be living the way he is, and like I said, my brother, who is only 23, does the bare minimum by making sure that there are groceries in the house. I wonder how much my dad and my kids, who can be noisy at times, will get along. I wonder if my stress level will go down or if I will explode. On my end, something has to give. This week, I got 10 hours of sleep total in four days. I am spread way to thin, between my dauhgters therapy, homeschooling my oldest and working full time...third shift. It wasn't so bad when my youngest was going to kindergarten full time, but now that her therapy is back in full swing, I have to pick her up from school in the middle of the scchool day three days per week for therapy. that is when I slept before.
My house is a mess. My husband and I are not getting along these days...I resent the fact that he has so much time to sit on his butt and watch tv, or play computer games when he is home and could be doing more to help me out. I wonder if once our money situation improves and I don't have to do quite so much, if things will get better for us. I have lost five pounds this month...that is not good. I'm down to 92 pounds, where my normal body weight should be 105, based on my size.
I am so happy that I am off for eight more days. We will be gone from tomorrow until Wednesday night late. Then I'll have a few days to recover before going back to work.
Our credit card balances did not budge this month, which is disappoionting, but I did pay off my medical bills, finally. We ended up having to pay a bit out of pocket to get things for our daughters therapy program to get it up and running again.
I have contemplated going to my doctor and getting on antidepressants, to take some of the edge off. I probably should have done it a long time ago.
Anyhow, that is where I am at right now. Cautiously optimistic about where the next year will take us, and scared too, of all the changes.... Heather

Big hugs to you! I work 2nd shift and it seems like I need 2x the sleep I did when I worked 'normal' hours.
Sounds like at the very least you need to carve out your sleeping hours and stick to them. Can DH or a trusted friend/sitter/neighbor pick up DD and take her to her therapy? Is there a way to split homeschooling responsibiliteis with another family/families? And why not let everything but the most essential housework go for a while (clean underwear for you and the kids, and an easy dinner on the table served on paper plates)...if DH runs out of clothes or doesn't like dust maybe he will find the washing machine and vacuum ;) Also you might try adding calories/vitamins/minerals with something like Ensure drinks or protein shakes. If you put them in the freezer for 30 min or so they are not bad and you can drink them on the run.
Good luck at your dad's (how old is he? is he in poor health?)
BK
Thanks for the ideas, BK.
My daughter's therapy is at our house, about 30 hours a week. The sessiona average about 2.5 hours, but dd gets a 15 minute break halfway through, so actually getting to sleep during her therapy sessions is not going to happen. Example: On Wed, I get home from work around 7AM. There's a team meeting from 8-9 (all of her therapists com over and go over her programming). Then the regular therapist stays until 10:30, which is when I have to drive dd to school. Then I have to pick up dd at 3:00 (school is basically 1/4 mile away), and then dd has therapy again from 3:45 to 5:45. DH comes home around 6:30, which is when I try to catch a few hours of sleep before I have to go into work. I leave around 9:15. So in theory, I should be able to get about 4 hours of sleep, but then I am screwed again come the next day, because on Thursdays, i pick dd up early from school for therapy, so I try to nap in the morning. UGH!!! Which doesn't kill us makes us stronger right??
When we move out to my dad's (he's in his 60s, has mild dementia and can't drive, as well as having issues with his heart), we won't be paying rent anymore. Its a 4 bedroom house on 1.5 acres, needs some fixing up. Anyhow, dd won't have the therapy once we move (different state), and I will cut my hours back to pt (20-25 hours) and work second shift to take care of everybody. On the one hand, i think it will be good that I don't have to stay up all night. On the other hand, it will be one more person to take care of. (I love my Dad and don't want it to sound like its an issue, it is just sometimes it gets to be too much as it is right now.) I'll probably send my oldest back to school, as well.
So anyway, that's a bit more of what's going on.
Believe me, i do let the nonessential housecleaning go...I probably even let the essential housecleaning go. LOL.. You can definitely tell what my priorities are when you come to visit my house. : ) Heather