Starting over...it's pretty sad....

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Registered: 09-12-2005
Starting over...it's pretty sad....
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Fri, 12-02-2005 - 12:56pm

Hey everyone!

Well, we did it. We moved out of our house, and into my in-law's basement. I can't believe we are doing this.

The good news, is that for the first time ever in my adult life, I have $400 in my savings account that I haven't touched for two weeks. I'm going to continue to save it, and not dip into it at all, until December 16th when I have to shop for Christmas.

DF is not doing well at all. He feels like a loser and a failure. Sitting there, laid off, waiting to find out if he's going to start receiving employment insurance before Christmas. He's busting his butt at the house, helping MIL with her mental health care home, and working himself to the bone, yet he feels like a loser because he's not making any money.

MIL and FIL have said that they want us to concentrate on our debts, and not to worry about rent or utilities....so I told DF that he is contributing that way. After all, if it weren't for him, I wouldn't be in his parent's house.

I'll let you know how things go....but I'm not going to do any serious debt paying until after Christmas.

Sarah

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Registered: 12-12-2004
Fri, 12-02-2005 - 6:57pm
Hi, Sarah. Well, am sending you congrats for saving money. Your DH may think he is not contributing anything, but he needs to think of skills he is learning. He can put that on a resume. Helping out with mental health home---put down general maintenance duties, assisting with coordination of care and day-to-day activities. So what if it is "volunteer" work? To an employer, that is valuable experience. In the past, I worked in mental health area---Alzheimers, people with drug dependencies, recovering alcoholics, bipolar, etc. It is indeed challenging work. I had to take courses at the local mental health place to stay current on topics---I had to have current CPR, MAB, PART training. Most of the classes were free, or nominal cost. Have him check into it. If nothing else, he can put it down on his resume that he had these classes. It will make him more marketable. Whiz.