Catching up

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Catching up
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Sat, 02-04-2006 - 11:18am

Hello! I thought I'd take a break from all the chores and catch up here for a few minutes...then back to the chores.....But I have to get out of the house at some point today because I am getting cabin fever.

I'm still dealing with the sinus infection with naps...it's wonderful....still feel sick, but oh, the naps...

Oh, so where have I been.....AT WORK!!! My job has been trying to strangle the life out of me. I am starting to look for a new one because I HAVE TO. I'll lose my sanity if I don't. There are so many probems there, and I work all day long, but the work and the expectations are unattainable. Completely unattainable. I can't even figure out how the place stays in business, how it doesn't just collapse on itself with all the mismanagement.

In the next 2 weeks I find out if I get a raise and/or a bonus....I'll bet on getting nothing.

The debt situation has not improved here. I am going YET AGAIN to rededicate myself to the task of digging out......The main reason I don't see progress is because of recent high dental and vision bills....just AWFUL!!!! I am going to be working on the paperwork to get some reimbursement from the insurance plans, but I had to pay everything up front first.....long story, but there went the emergency fund and the credit card balance. I will say again, however, I WAS SO HAPPY TO HAVE THAT EMERGENCY FUND!!!! And you better believe I am working to rebuild it. January was an extremely expensive month.

My family is having all kinds of problems, but I CANNOT financially help them. I have been giving them my time and elbow grease as that is all I have to give. It has been the best thing for me and for them. I will not be handing out money like I used to. This is very liberating.

I was going to go out shopping today with a friend to spend the gift certificates she got at her wedding, but she cancelled the trip, and I am glad because I really have to take care of myself today. I was not concerned about trying to spend my own money being out with her.....but I did go out last night myself and wandered around a couple stores to get out of the house, and I started to feel a bit overloaded with STUFF at home, and realized I ddn't want or need anything....I have SO MUCH......I went home happy to have looked at all the junk for sale, but happier I came home with nothing.

2 weeks ago I won a $50 grocery gift certificate that I haven't spent yet because I haven't needed a lot of food for the house yet, and I want to use coupons and hit the right sale to maximize the stuff I get out of the gift cert!!!!!!!!!!!

It has been extremely difficult to find time for myself these last weeks, so the organization project has gone nowhere until last weekend when I did get 6 bags of junk thrown out. Lots of paper again. I am going to try to start it up again this afternoon starting with my top drawer of the bureau in the bedroom. I realized the other day that I never look in it...I have cards and papaer and stockings in it and some other junk.....well, maybe something can get thrown out, moved around.....gotta start somewhere.

This feeling of having too much stuff helps a bit with the urge to accumulate (and charge) more. I am going to try to enjoy what I already have....and don't have time for......

Well, gotta go for now....back to the chores then out for Superbowl snacks....

Everybody have a great weekend!!!!!!!

Littlesbigs

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Registered: 11-09-2004
In reply to: littlesbigs
Sat, 02-04-2006 - 8:07pm

Hello Littlesbigs,

Good job on the naps to help get rid of the sinus infection. I hate being sick and I always want to sleep sleep sleep when I feel rotten. My husband and I are both getting over a nasty head cold. Yesterday, when we got home from work at 6pm, he headed for the bedroom, laid down on the bed (didn't even get under the covers) and slept for 3 hours straight. In the meantime, I had cooked dinner and worked on the laundry. I waited until 9pm to have dinner ready. I was just about to go drag him out of bed to eat, when he woke up all by himself and ate with me. He later went to bed at midnight, a little later than usual, but the "3 hour nap" gave him back some of the energy he had been missing all day.

Sincerely,
Lindsey Schocke

Sincerely,
Lindsey Schocke

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Registered: 12-12-2004
In reply to: littlesbigs
Sat, 02-04-2006 - 8:23pm
Hi, Littlebigs! It is sooo good to hear from you. Am sorry your sinus infection is dragging you down, but at least you can catnap and are getting things done. I, too, had to clean the entire house, do laundry, cook dinner. DH thinks when I have a day off (slow work day) that I can do everything, but it is exhausting! I am purging stuff as I go each week--clothes/shoes to give to Salvation Army, throwing out old pots/pans, organizing cupboards. The hardest thing for me to do is declutter the papers. I thought about a professional organizer, but he/she would take one look, and say, throw everything out. (in the garage!). YOur job??? What are you looking for? Better hours? Less commute? More $$/benes? Less stress/workload? Have you tried a temp gig to see if you'll fit? Here's hoping for a new job and a quick recovery/ Whiz.
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In reply to: littlesbigs
Sun, 02-05-2006 - 1:43am

Hello,

I don't do *all* of the housework, but I do 80% of it. When my husband was at home all day (working hard on a novel, not loafing), I would put a post-it note on his monitor asking him to do *one* thing that day. It could be emptying the dishwasher, or taking out the trash, or doing a load of laundry (washed, dried, folded & put away). I asked for him to do that one task, because he too was working hard, and he was more likely to get it done if I didn't give him a big "honey-do" list. After five days of just doing "one task", we would be caught up on dishes, laundry, and general trash tossing, all done without any nagging. I made sure to praise him effusively (but sincerely) and thank him for helping me. It was wonderful to come home and find at least one thing that I didn't have to do myself that evening.

Sincerely,
Lindsey Schocke

Sincerely,
Lindsey Schocke

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