Don't know what to do...
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Don't know what to do...
| Tue, 02-21-2006 - 9:33am |
Well, we had big plans to move back to ohio this summer into my dad's house so that we could take care of him as he gets older (he is 64.) Well, I found out this past week that he has about six months to live because his heart is very, very weak. The hospital got hospice involved.
Now we don't know what to do. The reason we were going to wait until summer was because it is the natural endpoint for our daughter's therapy, and we didn't want to move our girls in the middle of the school year. We were also going to move there specifically with the plan of having my dad around : (
We could move out there anyway, but move up our move date to April 1. Or i could take a leave from work for a few weeks and just visit. I am so torn.
I have no real attachment to the place where i am at...we have lived here only about 15 months...we have moved so many times trying to get the best therapy for our little one. I am so lost.
The summer is too far away to consider keeping this as our option at this point. there aren't going to be any easy answers for us in this...I jus have to hang on.
I'm just venting so I don't explode.
Heather
Now we don't know what to do. The reason we were going to wait until summer was because it is the natural endpoint for our daughter's therapy, and we didn't want to move our girls in the middle of the school year. We were also going to move there specifically with the plan of having my dad around : (
We could move out there anyway, but move up our move date to April 1. Or i could take a leave from work for a few weeks and just visit. I am so torn.
I have no real attachment to the place where i am at...we have lived here only about 15 months...we have moved so many times trying to get the best therapy for our little one. I am so lost.
The summer is too far away to consider keeping this as our option at this point. there aren't going to be any easy answers for us in this...I jus have to hang on.
I'm just venting so I don't explode.
Heather

Oh Heather - I am so sorry to hear this.
All my best,
Danni
You have a lot of decisions to make -- but it really doesn't sound like you have a lot of time to make them. The sooner you can go and really see what is going on, the better. It would probably be better to spend time as soon as you can, while your Dad is able to enjoy you being there.
As far as the move generally -- will the house be yours eventually? Are there jobs there for you and your DH -- can you move there financially without a huge problem? Can you find comparable therapy there for your daughter for the long term?
If eventually the house is going to be yours, then you were probably going to be moving back there somewhat permanently I guess.
I just know from my own experience that when Doctors give a relative time period they are often correct. You wouldn't want to be there for your Dad when he is not aware that you are there. We had hospice care for my brother, but he absolutely had to have someone with him all the time -- hospice people are not at the home 24 hours a day. You probably want him at home rather than at an actual "hospice" building. Lots to think about. Hugs -- so sorry this is happening.
Megan