PISSED at DH

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PISSED at DH
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Wed, 03-15-2006 - 7:20am

Well, his spending finally got to me.


He decided to buy a motorcycle.

 

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Registered: 09-20-2004
In reply to: callmearavis
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 9:43am

Aravis..
He didn't get the bike? This is a good thing!!!
Maybe he realized how many hoops you guys would have to jump through to make it work, and just decided it wasn't worth it. Annoying, but a bit of a relief.
Or am I misunderstanding??

Anyhow, I hope you guys work things out!

Heather

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In reply to: callmearavis
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 10:15am

I'm sorry things are rough right now.

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In reply to: callmearavis
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 2:31pm

Heather, no, not exactly.

 

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In reply to: callmearavis
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 2:41pm
I am sorry to hear there is stress in your family right now. That is never easy. I don't blame you for being mad at him for even suggesting it! For him not realizing what a strain that would cause. For having to be the responsible one. however talking about it will hopefully clear the air. GOOD LUCK!!! :)
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In reply to: callmearavis
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 3:15pm

Thanks a million.

 

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In reply to: callmearavis
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 4:28pm

Aravis,
I am sending you good luck vibes for your talk tonight!

I hope he understands why you are upset, and that you guys are able to have a meeting of the minds! Hey, you didn't add to the debt pile! That's a good thing.

There is NO WAY EVER I would let my dh get something as frivolous as a motorcycle...even if it were only $2000!! (Heck, $200, at this point!!!)

Hang in there, girl!

Heather

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In reply to: callmearavis
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 7:54pm
Hi, Aravis. Well, join the club. DH just got himself a new job, new CRV ('06), new everything, and is still sitting with a nice fat bank account of $18K. We have had many disagreements on this. He says I would "blow away" the $$$ so that is why it is sitting in his account. Yet, I still struggle to pay off MY medical bills each month, saying I go to the doctors too much (this is from a person who hasnt been to the dentist/MD in 6 yrs!). Oh, and he decided to get some fancy, useless theft deterrant for the car. Expensive! Maybe your DH and my DH have been on another planet. Whiz.
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In reply to: callmearavis
Thu, 03-16-2006 - 9:16am

Our talk did NOT help!!



All of a sudden, he starts talking about me getting a full time job to help - either he stays at the same (hard) job and my income ADDS to our debt-reduction, OR he gets an easier job (making less $) and my income keeps us afloat (doesn't add to total income, just allows him to leave his crappy job).


Um, two days ago he was wanting to add $9,000 to our debt, and now he is concerned about the debt???


I just went to bed and cried.

 

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Registered: 09-20-2004
In reply to: callmearavis
Thu, 03-16-2006 - 9:39am

Aravis,
There has got to be some sort of shock factor going on, right? Like two days ago, he was ready to add to the debtpile, and today he is talking extremes. Like maybe he hasn't taken tthe time to let what you said sink in so that he can go about it in a rational manner, and is instead just spouting off.? DH and I do that sometimes, and usually, after a cooloff period of a day or so, we are able to make actual progress. I think the thing that helps us is that we are able to erase what we said prior, and start fresh on a solution.
Maybe a part time job (evenings, weekend) is an option? just something temporary to get you from point a to point b?

I homeschool my oldest, run my youngest's therapy team, and work full time third shift. It is not easy, but i have accepted that for now, if I want our situation to change, I'm gonna have to nudge it along a bit. Keep trying...something will come to you guys. And is hes not being rational, nod your head, say uhuh, and try again in a few days. It will sink in.
Keep at it, girl!!
Heather

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In reply to: callmearavis
Thu, 03-16-2006 - 9:50am

Thanks Heather.

 

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