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PISSED at DH
| Wed, 03-15-2006 - 7:20am |
Well, his spending finally got to me.
He decided to buy a motorcycle.
| Wed, 03-15-2006 - 7:20am |
Well, his spending finally got to me.
He decided to buy a motorcycle.
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Maybe your husband is on to something about getting a new job for himself. working such erratic hours prevents you from contributing to the household income because there is no predictability in when he is coming home. And add to it that it is not a job he loves, loves, loves, i can see where there may be resentment, even if it is misguided. Maybe if you help him in his new search for a job and show him some encouragement to get out of a situation that must be draining for him, he will be able to reciprocate the kindness. (I am not at all condoning his behavior, but we have all been there...when one little grain of rice can tip the scales from manageable to unbearable) Maybe it is time to shift the priorities abit, albeit temporarily.
$7.00/hr certainly is not a huge amount, but maybe for him it is about teamwork, and not simply the bottom line. Know what I mean?? Nine years ago, i started in retail making $5.75 to contribute to the family income...i still work at the same company and now make $13.85, which is ok. i have never put the kids in daycare, though it has been draining at times. I guess my point is that no one wants to feel like they are in all this alone....it is too much pressure on a marriage. I mean who wants to work 12 hour days, and not have enough in reserves to order a pizza anyhow? Doesn't it just make it all seem not worth it?
I really, really hope you guys take this, um, opportunity (as i think of them in my own marriage : ) to do what will improve life for all of you! Something has got to give. Just chant to yourself (over and over if need be) " I love my sweet husband even if he does drive me crazy!" : )
It'll get better, girlie!
Heather
Heather, thanks again!
" I love my husband. But we definitely don't have the same priorities. I want a simple life, and he wants expensive cars and motorcycles. Not sure how I missed that when we were dating. ;)"
Yeah, Aravis, that happens, too. Whne dh and i were dating, I managed to convince him (not misleadingly, just the stage of life I was in) that I was a "stay at home" kinda girl...no fancy dinners out, movies, etc...just renting a video and staying in for a nice snugglefest. Of course i was so into him that it didn't matter where we were at as long as were were together : ) I'm still that into him..(well, most of the time) I just like other pepole's food better than the food either of us can prepare, and home just doesn't seem like a sanctuary now that it is my home. (as opposed to when we were dating, and we always went to his house.)
I bet things will go much better tonight. You both want the same thing, it sounds like, just one of you is more into the scenic route. Keeping my fingers crossed for you!
Heather
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