My support buddy seems to

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My support buddy seems to
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Thu, 03-23-2006 - 9:05am

have lost interest in the debt reduction thing or something.

Sarah
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Mon, 03-27-2006 - 7:41am

A "gee, that sucks" from ANYONE would have been nice.

Sarah
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Mon, 03-27-2006 - 8:57am
Hi,
I'm sorry things fell apart -- sometimes folks need a break -- post your successes and questions here -- everyone is pulling for you even if it isn't on a one to one basis. And best of everything to you in the last few weeks before your new little one arrives.
Megan
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Mon, 03-27-2006 - 8:57am

How crummy!!!

 

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Mon, 03-27-2006 - 10:14am

Hi Sarah - sorry to hear this, and sorry you felt abandoned by us.

All my best,
Danni

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Mon, 03-27-2006 - 10:49am

Hi!

I'm sorry your buddy has ducked you - that can be so disappointing. And I'm also sorry that you feel that this board has let you down - we're all here! Sometimes people look at a post, and think - hmmm... and then don't actually type anything just yet because they want to think about it. Or they don't know what to say. I never know what to say, myself.

(I myself haven't been on much this weekend, because we're getting ready to go out of town for a wedding we're going to, and DH needed the computer - a litany of excuses!)

Hope you're still on the debt reduction path!

And congratulations on your new addition!

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Mon, 03-27-2006 - 12:54pm

I haven't been on much this weekend since I'm on driving restrictions and have to use my weekends for DH and I to do errands.

Sorry you were disappointed that no one posted back. I hate it when I feel like that.

Your buddy has probably flaked on your because she is debting again. I know when I go over my budget or don't save like I had planned that I am hesitant to come back to the board and post it.. I can't imagine what I would do if I were on a one on one situation and I felt bad... I'd probably duck too...

Still post on the check ins and the Friday snowflakes threads. People read those and make note of it mentally, even if they don't respond to each and every one.

Stephanie
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Mon, 03-27-2006 - 1:24pm

Sarah,
I'm sorry you were disappointed. I had been watching this thread actually to try and get a sense of the board culture (I'm relatively new). I am on another 'tightknit' board (for healthy eating) and believe it or not, we had a long discussion about a particular thread where we invite people to share/vent/whatever (we call it a journal) and whether we should 'respond' to venting. We did eventually decide that unless the poster specifically said NOT to post in response, that we would go ahead and assume they wanted some but it really was a bit of a debate (not rancourous but lots of people had opinions). So I personally was sort of watching to see what this board did and not assuming that I should post.

I'm sorry that this buddy and the accountability/support piece it was giving you collapsed. I know those sorts of relationships can be tough to find and it's sad when they fall apart. The good news is you know that it was working for you so you know you need to replace that accountability/support in some other fashion or with someone new. Was that buddy something that was set up through/on this board? If not, maybe we could do something along that line. You were on track with your post but posts sometimes get missed or misinterpreted sometimes so don't give up yet!

Peg

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Mon, 03-27-2006 - 7:34pm

Sorry you feel that way about this Board. I honestly never saw your original post. It must have been posted on one of those days when there were a lot of posts and it got 'scrolled off' before I could log on to view it. I'm sorry you lost your debt buddy, though. Sometimes life gets in the way, and perhaps your buddy changed her mind or just didn't have the time to email her debt figures as often as you did. It wouldn't be fair of me to talk badly about someone because they stopped being a 'buddy' because I don't know her side of things. That may have been another reason why no one responded. When you take a personal issue between you and your debt buddy and take it to a public forum like this, it's only natural that people would feel bad talking negatively about your buddy with only one side of the story being given. In my opinion, it would take this board from one of support to one of animosity and fighting between members, and that's not a good thing in any support group.

Congrats on your upcoming delivery, and I hope you'll give this board another chance.

Pat :-D